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This is a discussion on How to Attract an ENFP within the ENFP Forum - The Inspirers forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Hello all female ENFPs! I am a male ENFJ, 17 years old and single, and I need your advice. :) ...

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    ENFJ - The Givers

    How to Attract an ENFP

    Hello all female ENFPs!

    I am a male ENFJ, 17 years old and single, and I need your advice. :) I met an ENFP at a high school speech and debate tournament in Alabama around two weeks ago. That's when I met her, and wow. Our eyes met, and I think fireworks lit off in my brain. I have met several amazingly smart girls like her, but she is one-of-a-kind. I have never met anyone like her. I only got to know here for two days, but I can't stop thinking about her. I prayed about this, and I know I'm not crazy. I definitely fell head-over-heels for her. We keep in touch through Skype and texting, and that just accelerates my infatuation. Because she's just so amazing, I'd like to describe her just a little bit.

    I don't fall for a girl for her external looks, so I'll skip that part. I'm enamorated by a girl's mind and heart. :) She's incredibly intelligent, unlike most girls I've ever met. We are both philosophy nerds, and I have some really complex ideas that some people don't seem to get. :/ But wow, she gets them in an instant and turns it into another idea I hadn't even pondered. I feel like we can complete and compliment each other in so many areas. That and so many countless things about her just calls for a high intelligence. What's even more beautiful is her heart. She loves younger children. She's incredibly kind, sweet, and sincere. I could go on and on about her; her heart and mind are just incredibly infatuating. All I want to do is just do anything for her; she certainly deserves a great guy to be there for her whenever she's in need. But, here's the catch, she lives in Florida (originally from Georgia), and I live in Texas. So... Hence begs the question:

    Ladies, if you are an ENFP, and a young man like myself lives far away and is interested in you, what would you expect from him? What would you like to seem him do for you? As an ENFJ, I know the iNtuitive Feelers have a very high attraction with other iNtuitive Feelers, unlike most others that follow the rule "opposites attract". I have no doubt I would be able to meet the standards that ENFPs hold for young men that are interested in them. But, details would definitely help. :) ENFP ladies, what would you expect from a young man? What do you need from a potential boyfriend/girlfriend, especially if he lives 1000 miles away? Thank you for your feedback. Sorry to start a relationship-oriented thread; I understand some of you may be getting tired of these. But, I thought here would be the best place to ask my question. :)
    Last edited by CrazyRedHead95; 01-16-2013 at 08:36 AM.



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    INTJ - The Scientists

    Give me her number Ill do it for you. Serious!!

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    ENFJ - The Givers

    Quote Originally Posted by Adnan Syed View Post
    Give me her number Ill do it for you. Serious!!
    Well, we already keep up with texting and Skype. :) And, we have awesome discussions! We explore ideas in philosophy, politics, etc. We keep things fun, exciting, and interesting, and I think she may be interested in me. The problem is that, since we're 1000 miles apart, how do I keep her interested in me, if she is? If you were an ENFP female, what would keep you interested in a guy 1000 miles away?

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    INTJ - The Scientists

    sexting. Thats the thing ;)

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Long distance relationships can work with consistent, but random contact. I say random because I like something unexpected.

    I have an ENFJ friend who texts me every morning, says the same thing "Good Morning!!!" (Which feels more like a copy and paste text.)

    It took me a while to make him understand that when I said "I am not a morning person...don't text me 5 minutes before my alarm goes off" was not just a request.

    He thought if he checked it off, like a "To do List" he would earn points. He didn't want "to forget to remember me in the morning"

    Think outside of the box... I have an ISTJ friend who sends random gif files that really make me smile.

    It sounds like you have a connection...make her feel special.
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    ENFJ - The Givers

    Quote Originally Posted by dpt727 View Post
    Long distance relationships can work with consistent, but random contact. I say random because I like something unexpected.

    I have an ENFJ friend who texts me every morning, says the same thing "Good Morning!!!" (Which feels more like a copy and paste text.)

    It took me a while to make him understand that when I said "I am not a morning person...don't text me 5 minutes before my alarm goes off" was not just a request.

    He thought if he checked it off, like a "To do List" he would earn points. He didn't want "to forget to remember me in the morning"

    Think outside of the box... I have an ISTJ friend who sends random gif files that really make me smile.

    It sounds like you have a connection...make her feel special.
    Wow thank you so much! I will definitely keep that in mind. I understand that we ENFJs can often get into this routinue style, so I'll do my best to send her cool texts that are sweet, unexpected, and exciting. Anything other advice you could lend? :D

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    With ENFPs, out of sight is not necessarily out of mind. Play and possibilities are important.
    Communicate with music videos.
    Words, words, words -affirmations
    Let her know you want to see her and how many ways you can imagine that happening. Eventually though, one or both of you have to travel. There has to be a bigger picture that you are striving towards or it is not fair to either one of you.

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    ENFJ - The Givers

    Yeah, I do make it clear that I wish we could see each other much more often. I'll emphasize how I truly wish we were closer. We do have a National tournament this summer. If we qualify, we'll definitely be able to see each other then. :) Do you think it would be wise to tell her exactly how I feel when we meet again? I don't want to tell her over Skype or text. I want to tell her in person to make her feel special. But, I don't want her to lose interest. How long would you wait for a guy to tell you how he feels about you?

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    INFP - The Idealists

    I agree with @dpt727 completely. I like little surprises here and there - emphasis on little. I love random ways of showing affection; routine ends up boring me after a while. I can be so hooked on someone who knows how to show how much they care in creative ways.

    Making me feel special is DEFINITELY the way to go. I love, I adore feeling special to someone, like I'm their person.

    Making me feel like they want to know about me as much as I want to know about them. I'm a very curious, engaging person who'll probably bombard you with endless questions. Showing genuine interest back is so lovely.
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    ENFJ - The Givers

    Excellent! So, stay out of routine with her, and be unexpected. Make her feel special; she's the only one I think about (so incredibly true). From what I remember, iNtuitive Feelers always feel most attracted to other iNtuitive Feelers, so I think there's some natural attraction there. :) I'm sure I can definitely fulfill what y'all would want, so I'm hoping this will just fall right into place. :) One last question: would a long-distance relationship like this last? I know I would do anything to make this work at such a long distance away, but the only available next time we can see each other in person will be in the summer. :/ But, would you ENFP ladies still hold on to a relationship active through Skype, as long as I strive my best to make her know she's the only person I think about every day?
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