As usual...I have lots of questions as I allow my words to fall out of my head. So don't feel like you have to answer everything..throw any of your words that stand out for you in my direction.
So I was curious as to ...well...if ENFPs like someone...What qualities attract you to that person? Make you feel special? Ha ha basically I'm wondering how to approach a potential relationship. I mean I'm still trying to figure out if this guy likes me or not, but let's pretend he likes me. For instance, he's asked me to come out for wings or coffee with his guy friends. (So he is showing some interest and it's not all in my head.)
Here is some examples/ info about what I like to find in a guy:
When he gives me a feeling of peace and that I am safe when I am around him. Unfortunately, I mostly get a creepy feeling when I'm around guys as I get this feeling that I know what they are thinking and I really don't like the way that they look at me. Hmm anyways, that is an example for you. I guess if it is going to work it will and I don't need your advice. However, I would really like to know how to make things easier. Ha ha like I'm willing to go out of my way for this guy and really get to know who he is! There's not too many people in the world that I go.."Hmm I wonder why they are the way they are? I can't wait to ask him more questions." Usually people bore me. I don't put in the extra effort because I think "Why bother? We're going to be friends for a year or two. And then everything I did will be a waste." (This is an unhealthy part of me I know I have to work on...and I am getting better.)
I'm trying to remember things that he likes to do. Music and books that he enjoys etc...I ask him what he thinks about such and such (I want to know his opinions). Although...I'm trying hard not to fall in the trap...but when I really like someone...some times (alot of the time) I retreat and have difficulties looking into their eyes. I become really self conscious. I know that eye contact is so important. Maybe I have to get over the fear of rejection and suck it up.
Ha ha...Hmm. What do you guys enjoy talking about? Your hobbies or Ideas? Opinions? Do you like to do the talking? Or do you like to listen? Bit of both? Do you talk more or less? Why? What do you find attractive (on the inside of a woman.)
MMmmm and for you Christian ENFPs if you have any advice that's attractive in a "godly" woman throw it in.
What are turn-offs? Or things that I shouldn't do that people think are the "norm" but totally turn you off? What are some clear examples or ways of showing that you are interested in someone. Is there a "ENFP" approach that you guys have? What's the worst thing someone could do if you were interested in them? How would people be able to make things easier on you if you were interested in them? How can I help him out without doing things that show that I'm desperate or something? How do ENFPs typically approach a relationship? (I'll probably be asking you guys alot of advice by the way! So thank-you so much for helping me along the way.)