I'm not exactly sure if the right word would be "Realism" or "Cynicism", but here goes.
In most general descriptions, I've noticed that ENFPs tend to be described as idealistic. First off, I'm going to give my definition of idealistic: believing that if you want something badly enough, you can make it happen, no matter what; believing in the best case scenario. I'm going to separate this from being stupid: believing good things will fall from the sky. My definition of this other view (My idea of realism/cynicism) is realizing ,and accepting, things are the way they are, how little I can do, and how little it would matter.
For the longest time, I've had HUGE inner conflicts when faced with a decision to pursue something, between the idealistic view and the realistic view. I'm going to try and illustrate this with an example. Recently, I had a fight with a friend. The only fault I can find (and trust me, I'm great at finding fault in what I do), was that I might've been adding to said friend's stress level. Otherwise, I did nothing wrong. I value the friendship, so I apologized. However, I have been getting cold replies, or am just simply ignored. I'm going crazy as what to do:
Idealistic: If I give her (female friend, if it changes anything) time to relax, our friendship will resume. If I message enough (but not too much), things will work out, and return to the way they used to be. I want my friend, and I'm willing to keep trying, until I get it.
Realistic: I didn't do anything wrong. If anyone should be apologizing, it would be her. Her not replying back to me shows she is a crappy friend. Me continually trying is simply a waste of time.
Not sure that's the best example, as it kind of seems dramatic. But this applies to pretty much all sorts of decisions, people related, academic related, everything.
Idealistic me sees Realistic me as a quitter. Realistic me sees Idealistic me as stupidly stubborn. As a result, I have these huge inner debates about what to do. It really interferes with me getting things done, so I was wondering if anyone else has/had something like this? (ENFPs especially, as they're described to be super idealistic, but I don't think it really matters what type you are. People are people.)
I hope that wasn't too long winded... xD