From: Parenting Skill-the INFP Child and Parenting Skill with Myers Briggs!
If your child is INFP, Introverted with Intuition, Feeling and Perceiving, parenting skill can be improved by understanding that these INFP young ones are emotional, and deeply sensitive and value oriented. And we will get into that in just a moment.
Firstly understand that this page is devoted to helping you as a loving parent or guardian better understand how to use your instinctive nature to improve your parenting skill by nurturing your child.
Your nature and your child’s nature is your personality type and your child’s type as discovered through the Myers Briggs Test. You may or may not be INFP; but, if your child is INFP than this page can guide you in developing outstanding parenting skill as you raise and interact with your INFP child.
You’ll be introduced to several key personality characteristics of the INFP child and you’ll be given some suggestions as to things to do that will improve parenting skill and help nurture you INFP child all through life.
We’ll assume that you know your personality type and that your child is INFP…here we go!!
Some Characteristics of the INFP Child-Some Behaviors to Look For
- These little ones are sensitive, quiet, gentle and cuddly
- The INFP will likely cling to parents and watch others from that safety zone
- They may be slow to warm up to others…appearing aloof, distant
- They can be so sensitive that anything can hurt their feelings
- The INFP child may be seen to suffer in silence so to speak
- The school aged INFP will most likely love reading…they get lost in a story
- They may also be drawn to art, music, theatre at early ages
- At elementary years they can become moody, negative when hurt or feeling unloved
- They will become quickly bored with routine…a lifelong trait
- Very private and internally looking children
- In adolescence the INFP wrestles with emotion…they are feeling their deep reactions to relationships, friends, family…everything
- They may become torn between family and friends as teenagers
- The INFP takes just about everything personally, this can hurt so they may not tell anyone about it
- INFPs may expend great effort in finding where they belong in the world
Regardless of Your Type Mom and Dad-Here Are Some Things You Can Do to Nurture the INFP Child and Improve Parenting Skill
- Read to them all the time…begin as early as possible
- Most INFPs love the library…take them often
- Speak softly to the INFP, a gentle voice does it
- This is hard but if you lose it…apologize quickly….your anger can really hurt the INFP child
- Acknowledge their very strong imaginary ways
- Support them to talk about how they feel…especially if you think something has hurt them
- Related to that, respect the intensity of how they feel at times
- The INFP child, youngster, teen is not very organized nor aware of time…help them gently and support their efforts at organization and time
- During times of conflict and argument…make a plea to their feelings don’t try to “logic” anything
- Let them know at times that things can be changed….most things are flexible
In conclusion Mom or Dad, if you are INFP than most of the above seemed pretty natural; but, if you are not a Intuitive Feeler (NF) maybe the above can better aid you as you develop you parenting skill. The INFP is one of the more rare types in terms of distribution as only 4-5% of the entire population is INFP.