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    INTJ - The Scientists


    How to handle an INTJ.

    Taken from here

    I found this highly amusing and pretty damn accurate.

    How to handle an INTJ

    Here's a concise guide (mostly based on decades of personal observation:-)) on how to survive first contact with an INTJ. Don't take it too seriously but ignore it at your own peril (not a bad disclaimer, he, he).

    Expect debate. INTJs enjoy tearing things apart to understand them and to prove (or disprove) their worthiness.
    They will gladly argue a point they don't actually support, just for the sake of argument or to probe things. This bears repeating: an INTJ can easily and persuasively assume a point of view which is wholly contrary to his actual conviction. If in doubt, ask.
    INTJs do have a strong sense of humour, often dry and quick, but also a bit warped. It can easily take a morbid streak.
    Expect blunt, honest, sometimes even hurtful answers: if you don't want to hear the truth, you wouldn't ask, would you?
    INTJs like to do lists, enumerations, pattern sorting and putting things into an ordered state (ordered for them, not necessarily for the rest of the world).
    Statements you can't back up with either solid facts or solid reasoning will at best be ignored and at worst poked fun at in ways not many people would describe as nice.
    Try to be both concise and precise. Using 81 woolly words where 18 sharp ones would suffice will not endear you to them.
    They do love wordplay though: if you can re-package your 81 woolly words in a witty, unexpected, esoteric fashion, they'll appreciate that.
    Don't expect an INTJ to respect anything you (or some other authorities) say just because you (or some other authorities) say it. INTJs bow to one authority only: rationality.
    For an INTJ truth is more important than simply being right, so they will readily admit errors or mistakes (once they have been convinced something they said or did was indeed wrong to convince them may not be easy though). INTJs unfortunately expect others to work likewise (and react bewildered if they don't).
    Stick to a statement after being proven wrong by facts or reasoning and an INTJ will treat you as an irrational idiot and everything you say as probable nonsense.
    Try not to be repetitive. It bores them to death.
    Clumsy attempts at political correctness and similar aberrations will greatly amuse them.
    Don't be surprised at sarcasm, hyperbole and flippancy. In fact, a non-sarcastic INTJ must be severely ill.
    Expect punctuality and exactness. They try hard to be on time and they hate unpunctual-ness, especially of the casual sort: the words obsessive-compulsive come to mind.
    They tend to be quite forgetful in everyday life, especially for trivial things like car keys, dropped tools or anniversaries.
    You can't trust that an INTJ takes something, anything for granted. They do take some things for granted, but you'll never know what and what not. The more extreme ones are actually willing to put everything to the test (and I mean everything).
    Remember that INTJs believe in workable solutions. They are open-minded to all and every possibility, but they will quickly discard any concept they deem unfeasible.
    Their way of showing that something you say (an idea, a suggestion) has potential or merit is by trying to pull it apart (which shocks those poor souls who instead expected awe or admiration). The ultimate INTJ insult to an idea or suggestion is to ignore it altogether, because that means it's not even interesting enough to deconstruct.
    INTJs can and will make themselves and everything else (and again, I mean everything) the butt of their jokes, witticisms and deeply nonsensical remarks.
    Do not expect INTJs to care very much about how you view them. They already know that many people see them as arrogant bastards with a weird sense of humour and they long since got used to it.
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    INTJ - The Scientists

    Handle with care

    Quote Originally Posted by bethdeth
    INTJs like to do lists, enumerations, pattern sorting and putting things into an ordered state (ordered for them, not necessarily for the rest of the world).
    Too true: I hate trying to explain my various systems to others. They invariably squint at me, utterly confused as to how something so complicated could actually make things easier. But it does!
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    ENTJ - The Executives

    There isn't a single sentence in this description that I do not relate to. Wow.
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    INTJ - The Scientists

    The accuracy is astounding.
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    INTJ - The Scientists

    I am going to print this out and tape it to my forehead.
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    INTJ - The Scientists

    Awesome! I like that - it's right on. I test almost everything. If it is worth my time anyway.

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    INTJ - The Scientists

    Quote Originally Posted by bethdeth View Post
    Their way of showing that something you say (an idea, a suggestion) has potential or merit is by trying to pull it apart (which shocks those poor souls who instead expected awe or admiration). The ultimate INTJ insult to an idea or suggestion is to ignore it altogether, because that means it's not even interesting enough to deconstruct.
    I hate it when people ignore my ideas

    This is great, btw. Thank you for posting this!
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    INTJ - The Scientists

    damn straight
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    INTJ - The Scientists

    Quote Originally Posted by bethdeth View Post
    Don't expect an INTJ to respect anything you (or some other authorities) say just because you (or some other authorities) say it. INTJs bow to one authority only: rationality.
    It's damn accurate.


    Quote Originally Posted by bethdeth View Post
    You can't trust that an INTJ takes something, anything for granted. They do take some things for granted, but you'll never know what and what not. The more extreme ones are actually willing to put everything to the test (and I mean everything).
    .
    Not everything, I just want to make the biggest mushroom cloud
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    INTJ - The Scientists

    I've read this article a couple of times. It isn't as impactful to me right now as it was when I first read it. Although accurate, I wonder if it is oversimplified? There might be a few people in my life who would benefit from such information, it would greatly improve the quality of our relationship. I dn't think that any of them would utilize the information, or even understandy why understanding and applying it would be a benefit. I don't really care if anybody "gets it" any more. I just don't care.
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