[ISFJ] ESTP and ISFJ - Is it a good match?

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This is a discussion on ESTP and ISFJ - Is it a good match? within the ISFJ Forum - The Nurturers forums, part of the SJ's Temperament Forum- The Overseers category; My ESTP mom and ISFJ dad were very attracted to each other, but I sometimes wondered if it was the ...

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    INFP - The Idealists


    ESTP and ISFJ - Is it a good match?

    My ESTP mom and ISFJ dad were very attracted to each other, but I sometimes wondered if it was the best match for them. They were both so different. Any thoughts on this? Is this a common match?



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    ISFJ - The Nurturers

    I think any two types can be a good match as long as there is a mutual understanding of each other's wants and needs. There are pros and cons to every matching and it all depends on what each person wants from the relationship. Before I write any more, this is all based on opinion so don't expect anything concrete.

    To base it on the type's goals and motivations specifically though, ISFJ and ESTP can be beneficial for both parties. The ESTP are pretty much the doers of this world and they love to take action to pursue whatever they desire. The ISFJ, on the other hand likes to heavily prepare beforehand and make sure to understand most of the prominent risks before taking action. Although this sounds like a bad match because of the directions that each party takes, it allows balance in taking action. The ISFJ can inform the ESTP of actions that simply aren't worth the risk and the ESTP can pull the ISFJ from being stuck in thought and not doing anything. The ISFJ and ESTP both seek harmony in their own different ways. However, with similar goals, different strategies can be used to get there (if both parties are willing to compromise).

    Based on the functions of the two, ISFJ with their dominant Si and ESTP with their dominant Se can be a tough thing to integrate, but if they are used properly (stated above), then it can be a great grouping. Because ESTPs and ISFJs both use Ti and Fe in different order of importance (auxiliary vs. tertiary), they can help each other develop their respective opposites by simply being together and learning from their experiences (as both parties are experience-based learners).

    Anyways, I hope this helps.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Marie Claire View Post
    My ESTP mom and ISFJ dad were very attracted to each other, but I sometimes wondered if it was the best match for them. They were both so different. Any thoughts on this? Is this a common match?
    socionics predicts relations of mirage between these two types, which are indeed attractive and very common: ISFJ relationship types
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    ISFJ - The Nurturers

    Before i even knew that the natural partner of an isfj was an estp, i was attracted to this type of personality by far than the rest (i read all of them and my favourite ones has to be the istp and estp) because it has qualities which i always wanted in myself like being more of a risk taker, etc.

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    male isfj and female estp is actually a relationship id love to see. I see way to many female xSFJ male ESTP relationships, it would be cool to see one with the genders reversed. I dont know many ESTP females but the few i have met I have gotten on quite well with.

    Anyone reading this thread of any other experiences involving this pairing?

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    INFP - The Idealists


    Quote Originally Posted by Brown93 View Post
    male isfj and female estp is actually a relationship id love to see. I see way to many female xSFJ male ESTP relationships, it would be cool to see one with the genders reversed. I dont know many ESTP females but the few i have met I have gotten on quite well with.

    Anyone reading this thread of any other experiences involving this pairing?
    My father's an ISFJ and my mother an ESTP. My mother passed away five years ago. My parents were so different from each other, but the relationship seemed to work. I think that despite their differences, they adored each other.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marie Claire View Post
    My father's an ISFJ and my mother an ESTP. My mother passed away five years ago. My parents were so different from each other, but the relationship seemed to work. I think that despite their differences, they adored each other.
    What were some of their differences? What where the positives and negatives? Could you go into more detail?
    Ill stop asking questions now ;)

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    INFP - The Idealists


    Quote Originally Posted by Brown93 View Post
    What were some of their differences? What where the positives and negatives? Could you go into more detail?
    Ill stop asking questions now ;)
    The biggest difference was probably related to their introversion/extroversion. My dad's idea of fun was sitting down with a good book. My mother, on the other hand, loved to talk and always wanted to go out and socialize. When they were younger, my dad would go out dancing with her, but I don't think he enjoyed it much. In their later years, my mother would often go out on her own and my dad would stay home. On the positive side, I think that my mom probably got my dad out of his comfort zone and had him do things that he otherwise would not have done. Also, my dad was the one with the business sense, who handled the finances. My mom was the one to get things done around the house. They seemed to complement each other well, but oddly enough, didn't really seem to understand each other.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marie Claire View Post
    The biggest difference was probably related to their introversion/extroversion. My dad's idea of fun was sitting down with a good book. My mother, on the other hand, loved to talk and always wanted to go out and socialize. When they were younger, my dad would go out dancing with her, but I don't think he enjoyed it much. In their later years, my mother would often go out on her own and my dad would stay home. On the positive side, I think that my mom probably got my dad out of his comfort zone and had him do things that he otherwise would not have done. Also, my dad was the one with the business sense, who handled the finances. My mom was the one to get things done around the house. They seemed to complement each other well, but oddly enough, didn't really seem to understand each other.
    weird :P like the old saying, opposites attract

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    ESTP - The Doers

    Quote Originally Posted by Brown93 View Post
    male isfj and female estp is actually a relationship id love to see. I see way to many female xSFJ male ESTP relationships, it would be cool to see one with the genders reversed. I dont know many ESTP females but the few i have met I have gotten on quite well with.

    Anyone reading this thread of any other experiences involving this pairing?

    I'm an ESTP married to an ISFJ for ten years now. After one of the craziest conversations in the history of this planet, we got married shortly after we started dating. People gave us 6 months. Ape shit crazy English chick with the calm, Christian, polite Canadian. It has been a wild ride! I just asked him what it's like. He said it makes us a lot of fun to be around. We're an adventurous couple. We've taken three small children to England and France and Guatemala and the Eastern seaboard of Canada and the US. We've traveled with 3 month old's and I've had contractions set off at 6 months pregnant with 2 children flying over the Atlantic. We've gone car free for our own health to encourage active transportation on foot and by bike. We've taken our kids caving and rock climbing.

    He makes me laugh and I make him laugh. We're best friend's and life is exciting and cool and we compliment each other well. I get him out of the house. I push him to make contacts and network and build his career faster. He forces me to stop and make plans and budget. Without him, I probably would have crashed and burned homeless somewhere in Gibraltar or something. Without me... okay he would have been fine but life wouldn't have been nearly as interesting.
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