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This is a discussion on If you love something, set it free... within the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers forums, part of the Keirsey Temperament Forums category; A part of the famous quote by Alison Willcocks If you love something, set it free. If it comes back ...

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    ENFJ - The Givers

    If you love something, set it free...

    A part of the famous quote by Alison Willcocks

    If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was. We do not possess anything in this world, least of all other people. We only imagine that we do.
    How many of you actually believe that? Have you ever got back something you set free ? Or was it gone forever? How did you move on when you realized that it was actually lost forever?



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    ENFJ - The Givers

    Yes, there are several places where this philosophy can be applied. I have seen this with family members, friends, and loved ones. We may have things we want and hope for them. This desire can prove to be a way of holding on to them. I think that as parents, we have to learn how to let go of our children to let them fly and trust that they will return in time.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Nothing truly belongs to us in the sense of permanence and possession, but nothing is completely separate from us either on a quantum level at least. This philosophy applies when I take a more glow with the flow approach towards having expectations rather than being so emotionally dependent on what the outcome will be.
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    ISTP - The Mechanics

    Quote Originally Posted by 5n0w View Post
    How many of you actually believe that? Have you ever got back something you set free ? Or was it gone forever? How did you move on when you realized that it was actually lost forever?
    Thank you for posting this. It made me remember the "Reason, Season, Lifetime" poem by Aleksandra Lachut. Thank you again:

    People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
    When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

    When someone is in your life for a REASON,
    it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
    They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
    to provide you with guidance and support;
    to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
    They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
    They are there for the reason you need them to be.

    Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
    this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
    Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
    Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
    What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
    The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

    Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
    because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
    They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
    They may teach you something you have never done.
    They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
    Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

    LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
    things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
    Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
    and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
    It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

    Thank you for being a part of my life,
    whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I totally agree... People are not possessions.

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    ENTJ - The Executives

    Totally agree.

    You can never say that someone belongs to you, it's all their choice and we all should respect and value that choice. Now, I can say that I belong to someone else if I ever feel that strongly, but I can never say that she belongs to me.

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    I don't know, but whenever I hear that quote, it doesn't quite jive well with me.. Maybe I'm taking it a bit too literally, but the feelings that I get from it are of 'control.'

    I usually think, "Well- if you depart and go your own way- wish the other person luck, and move on. If you happen to find one another again- then enjoy the friendship."

    In terms of love? I think if the person didn't truly want to be with the other person, and wasn't really that into them then why take silly seconds? Let the relationship go. Let it be? If they come back, don't take them back anyway? Help them find someone else? Maybe I'm just krazy like that. Hehehe
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    ISTP - The Mechanics


    Quote Originally Posted by Bella View Post
    I don't know, but whenever I hear that quote, it doesn't quite jive well with me.. Maybe I'm taking it a bit too literally, but the feelings that I get from it are of 'control.'

    I usually think, "Well- if you depart and go your own way- wish the other person luck, and move on. If you happen to find one another again- then enjoy the friendship."

    In terms of love? I think if the person didn't truly want to be with the other person, and wasn't really that into them then why take silly seconds? Let the relationship go. Let it be? If they come back, don't take them back anyway? Help them find someone else? Maybe I'm just krazy like that. Hehehe
    Yeeeeah. What if by setting them free, they feel rejected by you, and think you don't really love them? What if you both set each other free? I think that when you love someone, you hold the fuck on.

    Then again, I too could be taking it too literally.
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    ISTP - The Mechanics

    Quote Originally Posted by Bella View Post
    I don't know, but whenever I hear that quote, it doesn't quite jive well with me.. Maybe I'm taking it a bit too literally, but the feelings that I get from it are of 'control.'

    I usually think, "Well- if you depart and go your own way- wish the other person luck, and move on. If you happen to find one another again- then enjoy the friendship."

    In terms of love? I think if the person didn't truly want to be with the other person, and wasn't really that into them then why take silly seconds? Let the relationship go. Let it be? If they come back, don't take them back anyway? Help them find someone else? Maybe I'm just krazy like that. Hehehe
    To the contrary, you're not taking it literally. You're being a typical Ne user in reading threads of meaning instead of taking it literally.... But more interetingly you're trying to rationalize love? It's an emotion, beyond rationalization.

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    Unknown Personality


    True. I agree. But sometimes it's hard to let go, because you don't want to lose your... love.


 

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