My Fe may be low but I'm definitely one of the Fe folk.I personally am almost entirely focused on the intent which I read from another, and very, very few 'unintentional' offenses can really shake or bother me. I can't even think of an example at the moment, though I suppose that.. there have been times when others have put me or someone else down, as a way to prop themselves up temporarily, like as a form of social currency or whatever.. and even then I can feel that it's usually not a truly malicious, personal attack.. but more out of an internal deprivation, insecurity and defense mechanism which brings such focus to that individuals need, rather than the collateral damage, so that the harm inflected on others is slightly hazy and hanging just around the peripheral, not directly realized.
I think there may be a connection between Fi and Fe, focusing on intention vs context/social sensitivity. I've noticed that a number of my Fe buds not only don't give a shit about intention, but will even go so far as to say 'who knows what the true intent is, how could I know or be sure of that? Such person *should know* that is not socially acceptable.' So, they are less strong it seems, In deciphering ones deeper, personal motivations, and as such better at establishing specific guidelines of behavior and communication? I dunno.. it's just a thought.
I get into trouble when I assume/project that others can read my intentions as well as I believe I can others (though I know this can easily break down, with people saying 'but how do you ever really know? You aren't in others head space, feeling what they feel!') and, that in itself is a very complicated, tedious topic which I've gone the rounds before on, and don't care to right now) so I throw particular expressions or taunts around, mistakenly believing someone is 'on the same page'.
I love Bill Burr, hilarious.
And that isn't because I agree with all of even most of his opinions or narratives, it's because he honors his own unique story, he has conviction in expressing his narrative without doubt, without fear, without shame. Or, even when he feels those things, he can be honest about that struggle, about reconciling various conditionings and beliefs he's absorbed, how those things effect the way he sees the world and must reconcile social changes. This is why Bill Burr is so great, because he's authentic... he changes with the times but it's an organic movement, he's not going to change his feelings and narratives unless that shit really makes sense to him, he will not 'buy into' being a way because others say so. I love that, those who can honor who they are, where they come from, the conditionings, values, life experiences, etc. that have shaped them.. I love people who will not devalue their own roots no matter what 'new' or 'progressive' the ideas of the times may be.
If what I want to say has a high chance of offending someone I just don't say it. We don't know everyone's backstory and where they're coming from. I'm only inappropriate with close friends, because I know for a fact I'm going to say some really insensitive shit if I let myself loose.