This is a discussion on Enneagram Type Synopses and Foci of Attention within the Articles forums, part of the Announcements category; Originally Posted by diMaggio Lol, really? Hmm, ok I guess she must've changed it herself then over the years. May ...
I am a 6 for sure, but not sure what it is in me that makes me be able to make decisions a little better than that which is often described as 6. I am a little less anxious. I make decisions pretty quickly because I am impatient and want to keep moving foward, but success does scare me. I often seek others approval before I make a decision. One time I was living overseas and so homesick and wanted to go home, but my parents kept telling me to stick it out (I was 25 at the time) Only when they said I could come home as long as I had a job - I went. But I need others approval before I make big decisions because I don't trust myself. Might be because I was a youngest child and everyone told me what to do, or my strict parents who did everything for me or how I was made fun of in school so figured I was an idiot.
this is a great post, thank you. i am trying to figure out some enneagram types at work and learn how to deal with them. this helps.
i relate to the four conceptually, but not sure it's right on. i do tend to get into push-pull relationships, but i don't necessarily feel disappointed when love is near at hand, but i think when i have to deal with the ordinary, everyday aspects of a relationship, then i can get disillusioned. we're romantics!
not sure i completely agree with this: As a posture, dramatic moods make Fours too precious for ordinary life. but i can see that maybe others would see fours that way.
Wanting what is unavailable, far away, and hard to get. Avoiding the ordinary.
i don't really ever understand this one either. we all have to deal with the ordinary, but maybe i am just more interested in things outside of it, but not necessarily avoiding it. a lot of "ordinary" stuff (i'm thinking of music and the arts here) are disappointing, boring and formulaic. i think it's an asset rather than a downfall, to realize this and appreciate the things that the majority don't. that being said, i don't even think a lot of fours are like this. from what i can tell, plenty like ordinary things.
I can really relate to the different selves for different people part of the type 2 description, and have never read anything else that made that connection. Well done! :D
spot on with my 4,7,9
True - but a bit negative and harsh sounding.
For enneagram type 5, the last 3 dot points were spot on in my case.
The power of knowing. Analytic systems and special information. Wanting the keys to the way the world works. Figuring out feelings.
--- When unable to compute, can lead to sporadic moments of "WHY DO YOU WUVVVV ME OH MY GOSHHHHH YOU DIRTY LIAR, DON'T TOUCH ME! WAIT, DON'T LEAVE!"
Confusing spiritual nonattachment with the need to detach from emotional pain.
--- Very true. Detachment from emotional pain never ever works (see below), it all comes out in floods. Even worst if the pain arose from relationships with others, daggers will fly. I can assure you of that. Most of my pain arises from fear. To overcome it all, got to not only face the fear, but be the fear. Perhaps this is where spiritual nonattachment comes into play, to embrace the moment (not fear it) and not be stuck on the past or possibilities. Personally.... That's hard to do so, yeah, but it's possible to train the mind/unlearn from that which causes my undoing.
Watching life from the point of view of an outside observer. This way of paying attention can lead to:
Feeling isolated from the events of one’s own life or an ability to:
Assume a detached point of view that is unaffected by fear or desire.
--- Spot on.
Him: How am I meant to be comfortable getting close to you if our interactions always spiral into angst, daggers and exhaustion?
Me: Are you exhausted? You want to leave? Hey, why can't you just agree with me that you don't enjoy my company as much, that you'd never open yourself up to me so this can be done with.
Me: *anxiety soon arises*
I am new to Personality Cafe and I kept seeing Enneagram and I have never heard of it so I looked it up and to be quite frank I have no clue which one is me. It seems I am a combo of several. How do I know which one is me? is there a test one can take such as the Meyers-Briggs that lets you know what personality type you are?
Personality Types: Free tests - Enneagram and Myers Briggs
This one is good.