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    somehow it seems that You just can't do anything with such delicate thing as love using some kind of system. just doesn't work this way

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    I can't see myself being with a woman long-term if she isn't IXTX. Shot term would be a different matter and any type would do as it would be based on occational sex & company but it would be just that - short term.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lib View Post
    I can't see myself being with a woman long-term if she isn't IXTX. Shot term would be a different matter and any type would do as it would be based on occational sex & company but it would be just that - short term.
    I used to think that...until I met feelers who can use logic. They're pretty fucking awesome.

    That's when I really thought about what I want in a partner. I realized what I want is someone who is truly aware what they are and how the world around them really works. I also realized there's nothing a T can do that an F can't.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TheLuckyOne View Post
    I used to think that...until I met feelers who can use logic. They're pretty fucking awesome.

    That's when I really thought about what I want in a partner. I realized what I want is someone who is truly aware what they are and how the world around them really works. I also realized there's nothing a T can do that an F can't.
    Lol. I think it would have been difficult for me to graduate from college or own a business if I didn't use logic.

    Also, I think it would be near impossible to have a relationship with someone who has incredibly under developed empathy. Its part of healthy development as humans.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TheLuckyOne View Post
    I used to think that...until I met feelers who can use logic. They're pretty fucking awesome.
    Oh yes we are, LOL!

    But still, that particular set of matching traits does not depend on type.
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    Well, you do have to remember, despite what's written in Myers Briggs descriptions, F doesn't mean emotional and irrational and vice versa for Ts. Fundamentally Fs focus on the purpose of things and Ts on the truth of things so I don't know what gives people this impression, Fi users can be very fluffy of course and Fe users at times I suppose but that's not what the functions are supposed to entail, I think we see this because those who have taken the test take an interest in this black and white "thinkers are "logical" and feelers are "irrational"" and they relate to it thus give people the impression that Fs are this way and Ts are that way. Usually, thanks to the sliding scales in the MBTI there are many who are in between but the general attitude towards them thanks to this sliding scale is that they're "xs" and undecided.

    I'm more "logical" and rational than more than half of the people claiming to be thinkers seem to be, so much so that I don't know how they live their lives at all if they're anything like me always trying to talk sense into people, always staying calm and collected in rough situations, always being ridiculously honest, not doing something unless I have a perfectly good reason or justification (which all cause me serious problems in my life that I haven't seen anyone else go through). I've had so many people say "you can't be a feeler", they're obviously getting the wrong idea of what a feeler is. In fact, I did once too, I thought every time I was kind to someone or empathized with someone I was using Fi lol.

    But yeah, you get my point (if you've made it this far), thinkers and feelers are both rational types and I think the result and behaviour people associate with the F function comes from extreme examples of people relating (and then getting interested because of how much they related which many people admit gets them interested in the first place) to the "feeler" questions on the MBTI or maybe I'm wrong but I've never seen these extreme examples IRL.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TheLuckyOne View Post
    I used to think that...until I met feelers who can use logic. They're pretty fucking awesome.
    Why thank you!

    ::sheds tears of joy::
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    Quote Originally Posted by pinkrasputin View Post
    Lol. I think it would have been difficult for me to graduate from college or own a business if I didn't use logic.

    Also, I think it would be near impossible to have a relationship with someone who has incredibly under developed empathy. Its part of healthy development as humans.
    haha. That's probably why there's so many single T's on here. I know for a while over on the ISTP board, it seemed like there was an unofficial competition for who could be the coldest jerk. It may not be what F and T are supposed to represent, but that's what it has developed into here. I rarely post on the ISTP section anymore because I'm so out of place...god forbid I have any kind of emotion and embrace it.
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    I might use type as one indicator, but it wouldn't be my final judgment on someone. Other compatibility, like how you both want to spend your time, and what your values are, strike me as much more important. Of course it does drive me crazy when I can't pin someone down to a type, and they refuse to take the test or grant it any validity whatsoever. I think it would be amusing to date someone of "my own type" or hell, someone anything like me, as I only date polar opposites. And that has turned out sooo well ;)
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    Quote Originally Posted by TheLuckyOne View Post
    haha. That's probably why there's so many single T's on here. I know for a while over on the ISTP board, it seemed like there was an unofficial competition for who could be the coldest jerk. It may not be what F and T are supposed to represent, but that's what it has developed into here. I rarely post on the ISTP section anymore because I'm so out of place...god forbid I have any kind of emotion and embrace it.
    Yes Lucky, I've seen you and you've always been incredibly supportive of different types.

    In regards to feelings, I will never apologize for being in touch with my feelings. I won't apologize for the fact that I paid my therapist a butt load of money to make me more consciously aware of my emotions. I'm not going to apologize for wanting to be a healthy individual who gets along well with others.

    I think people often forget that anger and hurt are also emotions. Sadness is an emotion too. Crying is not an emotion, it is a behavior. Yelling and screaming is not an emotion, it is a behavior. Envy and jealousy (insecurity,fear, anxiety) are emotions and not behaviors. This is so important to understand. A person may have any of these emotions and not react based on their emotions. For instance, an envious person can discover their envy and stop themselves before having a reaction. They can stop themselves before they bully or sabotage someone else.

    I think anyone who is more consciously aware of their inner states of emotions will less likely be a slave to any negative behaviors or knee jerk reactions. Fear, joy, sadness, and anger are probably at the root of a lot of people's emotions. But I think the sometimes knee jerk behavior of crying for some people is probably the least likely to hurt someone else. But once again, that also takes being in touch with one's hurt or sadness, a primary emotion.

    If someone were to tell me that they have never felt hurt, anger, or sadness, it would tip me off that there is a seriously problem there. Something that needs to be taken care of in therapy. If someone were to tell me that they never felt happiness or joy, I would wonder if they were depressed.

    In a relationship if someone were to tell me, "Sorry, I just got scared of losing you" I would think there is a person who is not just "in touch" with their emotions, but is honest about them.
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