3 weeks, wow, glad you are feeling better.
Thanks for the update,
Feel better than you have in years?? That is indeed great news
Keep us posted on your progress
Originally Posted by Siggy Gosh, so sorry to hear that. Get well soon and take care. Keep us posted when you are able. I'm back (minus about 2' of large intestine) All is well so far. I started back to work today.
Gosh, so sorry to hear that. Get well soon and take care. Keep us posted when you are able.
Back in high school I had a young new female teacher for Algebra class. I would guess she was probably somewhere around 23 or 24 years old. I remember her leaving the classroom for just a few minutes and in that short time some of the male students decided it would be funny to turn her desk upside down.
What I remember most about this incident was her walking back into the classroom and acting as though nothing had happened. She didn't ask who did it. I remember watching her hands shake as she wrote math problems on the board. All in all she did a good job of pretending not to notice and was only betrayed by her inability to control her nervous shaking.
She only taught that one year at my high school. I often wondered if she went somewhere else to teach or if she decided that teaching was not for her. I also wondered if the desk incident influenced her decision.
I think we all have memories of things we did from our teenage years in high school that we wish we could have a do over on. Even as quiet and shy as I was in high school, I have a few things I would do differently if given a do over.
Not embarrassed to say I shed a tear reading this...
This is why im always afraid of serious relationships, me being on the cheating side or her. I dont trust anyone, not even myself.
The truth is that we're all interconnected. We just waste a great deal of time and energy pretending that we're not. In my understanding, there can be no greater form of faith than unconditional love.
Nicely put. Thoughts like this inspire me and give me hope but sometimes also make me depressed as I lose faith in universal love much too often.
blah blah blah.
Big people communicate, and use their words. They don't "quit" the relationship without telling hte other person.
They use their words and QUESTION ASSUMPTIONS. You lied to him because he didn't make you breakfast or save enough money or make enough money or blah blah blah.
Good luck, best wishes, and next time try the fucking TRUTH.
I got nada respect for an 8 over the age of 25 who can't tell the fucking TRUTH to their spouse.
Perhaps part of the problem was we both stopped giving it everything. We reduced it to "going through the motions," and I thought that was good enough, but she didn't.
Sir, I feel so much for what you're going through. You think you know someone... giving it your everything... sticking to what you have no matter what... and then it ends...
I hope all the negatives you're feeling now will fade in time.
Believe me when I say I know how it feels to have someone you love not tell you everything...
I think there's a lesson in here somewhere.
"She appears to me as someone whose spirit has been broken by the realities of a life she never chose to live; by the many burdens she never expected to bear. "
And now my eyes are welling up with tears...
I am so sorry. I have responded at length on your thread, and I was going through your blog here after you posted an update today. This is just heartbreaking. Cheating is unforgivable. God..I hate what you are going through.
I can't get over how wrong it was of her to do this to you. It must feel like you're mourning for the person you thought you knew. So sorry for you.
im so sorry for your lost love, you deserved better for those 20 years. She cheated and didnt express herself to you, she betrayed your vows and love. She took the most purely innocent and powerful force of intimacy and spat on it. Screw her.
I'm sorry this had to happen to you. It sounds like you did everything you could. I did read your post and I heard you, so if you feel like you need to write some more, please do.
Thank you. You really are a treasure at PerC. I appreciate all of the wisdom you've shared through your posts and I look forward to more.
[COLOR=#222222][FONT=Arial]It's easy to live life when you see others similar to you. I've always been a loner and book worm. Finding out that I was an enneagram type 5 was very liberating for me.
I agree that it is better to just "be" than try to live life strictly according to a personality type.[/FONT][/COLOR]
We are all unique, just like everyone else.
You mean I don't like tacos because of XXXX or I eat my tacos a certain way because of X.
And I don't like XXXX because they don't like tacos?
^yes that was not a real question