This is a discussion on Fe-users how do you deal with private emotions? within the Cognitive Functions forums, part of the Personality Type Forums category; Originally Posted by Ashes4719 @ Pensive Fine - Um it could be a lot of things! I think it is ...
Last edited by Pensive Fine; 04-26-2019 at 10:38 AM.
Live. that. up. ;)
@Pensive Fine Oh yeah, I totally agree with you! I can only imagine the frustration that my partner tried to get that information out of me! It sounds like he cares, and wants to be there but he is having difficulties with the negative emotions. How old is he? I just ask because when I was younger, I was very... flightly at times, I guess you could say. That could also be a part of it. I know in your last post you said you have spoken with him before about him not wanting to hang out with you and I am wondering how comfortable you would be trying to hang out with him and his friends? I just ask because that would make him feel like he didn't have to "choose" if that is what he is feeling. Do you like the people he is hanging out with or could you see yourself hanging out with them?
I have Fi as my primary function - BUT - lately I have started using Fe a little bit more as well.
Over the years I've become very self-aware and gotten to know myself. I've learned how to take better care of myself within the last year or so, and over the past few months I've also done quite a bit of self-reflecting.
On the other hand; I've also tried to open myself up to caring about other people as well, since in the past I've been quite closed off in this area. I want to develop this part of myself, because I've noticed over the past year that I would like to make more genuine connections with people.
In terms of expressing emotions - it depends who is involved and if I trust them enough to point that I feel comfortable expressing deep emotions. If it happens to involve crying - usually I prefer doing that behind closed doors and in private - there are extremely few people that I feel comfortable crying in front of.
If emotions/feelings present themselves in a topic of conversation - firstly, I assess what the topic of conversation is and if I will be able to openly talk to the person and say what I truly feel about the topic - if I'm able to do that, then I'll be able to openly express myself. But if I can't openly express what I feel on the topic with the person, then I don't even broach the topic of conversation with them. I'm someone who can feel strongly about some topics of conversation and where they fit into my personal value and belief system.
One thing I will say, is that I love observing other people when there's a group conversation going on - since I take in a lot of what's going on - what's being said, and what's not being said.
I let it flow when I'm alone and negate all notion of me not feeling good.