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This is a discussion on Fi-doms; How expressive are you? within the Cognitive Functions forums, part of the Personality Type Forums category; In regards to expressing my feelings or thoughts in front of people; I have a hard time putting my complex ...

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    In regards to expressing my feelings or thoughts in front of people; I have a hard time putting my complex thoughts/ideas/feelings into sentences that would capture the exact meaning and essence of said thoughts/feelings/ideas. It's hard to phrase something at a level where it can be clearly understood, if understood at all, from my perspective.

    Most of the time it results in misunderstanding because of the other party's interpretation, their subjective interpretation of each individual word. By objective definition they know what a word means, but there's also so many ways to use words, because of many meanings to one word, and plays on words.

    There are so many ways to word something it's impossible to think of a perfect sentence right on the get go. I need time, quite a bit a of time, at least 5-10 minutes or more, depending on the situation/subject/context and how lengthy my response is. If it's for something very formal, or urgent, or anything important, I may even need to think how to word something a few hours or a day before! Or after.

    This is probably what makes me socially awkward. The reason why I come across as socially awkward is because of how I process things etc.

    I'm especially socially awkward when it comes to comforting people. I understand and sympathise,(or empathise) with people's problems, I really do feel it on the inside. But on the outside I have trouble expressing how I feel. Now I don't know how to word this, because I'm not exactly sure what I'm even thinking right now, because I'm trying to think of what it is that makes me express my feelings in an awkward way. Hmmmm. Maybe because I know some people aren't touchy and emotional type of people, I don't want to go and hug people because they may not like it. I only would hug someone and start to cry if they're the type of person that needs that, or wants that. Some people don't like dramatic reactions, so maybe, I tone it down for that reason. And also, sometimes I just simply don't know what to say, because when somebody's mum or dog or husband has just passed away, they are really feeling the grief and words usually don't comfort them that much anyway, and if you say the wrong thing you might upset them. So sometimes it's best to say little or nothing at all, and express your sympathies with body language instead.

    Now, this took me a long time to write, maybe 10 minutes, probably 20. It's been a while. So there's your report of Fi trying to express itself.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I'm INFP, and it depends on the situation. If I'm comfortable with a person or environment, I'm very expressive.

  3. #23
    INFP - The Idealists

    I'm quite expressive. I usually openly express how I'm feeling and can even be a bit dramatic about it at times. But, I guess I also feel like relatively 'subtle' expressions are still pretty obvious so perhaps to people who aren't as attuned to emotional cues I could think I'm emoting loud and clear while to them I seem unreadable. *shrug*

    I do try to keep my feelings relatively to myself when I'm not comfortable with the people I'm with, or if I feel like it's the wrong time and place, but I often don't feel like it's necessary to hide the truth of my feelings. While I don't particularly want to draw attention, I see it as an unfortunate side-effect of being genuine, which is far more important to me most of the time.

    I do sometimes feel like my facial muscles just don't move as much as I imagine I'm moving them - like when I look in the mirror I think I have to exaggerate a bit.

    I don't see feelings as intensely private, like my INTJ friend does. They are at the core of who I am, and I think it's important to be true to myself, and if I want anyone to get to know me then it's vital that I share my emotions.

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    I'm very pokerfaced personally, but I wasn't at all as a kid. Trying to be expressive just feels awkward for some reason, I don't really even know how to. I try to have like a warm smile while I talk to people and change my face appropriately to things they say but my face is quite stiff all the while.

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