I was really upset by something at work today.
I work with children in a room with three other teachers, however we also have three other teachers in another room who interact with the child at times. My head-teacher and I had a child bring in ten boxes of cookies (actually, not sure about the number) today for "the teachers." (also--I know this wording is kind of unclear. We didn't ask her to bring in cookies--but I am saying this because technically I and my head teacher are her "teachers"--and the other five teachers are not "her" teachers)
One of the teachers from the other room grabbed two boxes of cookies. I was totally fine with that (though it irritated me a little that the head teacher hadn't been given first choice since it was her student who gave the cookies). But I was really insistent that everyone got some.
We (from our class) all got our own box, and I put one aside for the teacher who I knew wouldn't have access to the box or ever hear about it.
Then, I put two aside for the other two teachers (who worked with the one who took two boxes). When I came back from lunch, the two boxes were gone and one of my co-teachers said she gave them to the teacher who had taken two for herself, to give to her other co-teachers.
Later, when I was working with one of said teachers, she told me that the teacher who had taken two boxes for herself had only brought ONE box in for the other two teachers--saying it was for everyone in the class.
That means she took THREE boxes of cookies, the rest of us got one box, and then the two teachers who work with her had to share a box with her.
This bothers me so much. It's because I believe that gifts are meant to be received by those who they were intended for. Also, I feel like this kind of behavior upsets the comeradery between teachers. And I just don't see why. Why would one person take three boxes, while refusing to give their co-workers one each? This teacher was not at all closer to the student who gave the cookies. I do not see why she can't put herself in the place of her co-teachers and see how she would not want to be left out in that way.
I don't even care if it has to do with her financial situation--I wouldn't care if she stole supplies from the school (like crackers etc)--but these are gifts, and the purpose of a gift is to make people happy (everyone intended by the gifter).
It's really offensive to me because I feel like it upsets a system, and because I feel like it is hurtful to some of the teachers. It almost violates the principle of gifts--to receive a gift and then refuse to allow others to? Especially since they had just as much right to that gift as her?
So, one box was split between myself and another teacher because we both wanted to try the flavor and it was an extra (and there wasn't enough for every teacher to get two boxes). But the two had been set aside for the other two teachers before we split it.
I really have a difficult time understanding the difference between Fe/Fi and Ne/Ni so I appreciate it if anyone gives their thoughts about this example.