So I'm sitting at work, at my desk, chatting with my coworker, about personality types (this is all we ever talk about). shes an ENFP. which i am as well, MY J and P are perfectly balanced.
Today our conversation started with me having to explain myself for something I was not able to follow through on with a client of ours. In my eyes, I saw it as explaining why it wasn't completed, she saw it as me making excuses (mind you most of the time its something completely out of my control, and im her manager).
after that we did a little comparing of each others personalitiy traits and mainly my issues with being authentic or lack of.. psssshhh anyways.
and for the fact that I may be passive aggressive! which I see alot of in myself. but i cant help it.. i feel. I cant say no, I cant put someone down. i cant critisize. i just cant! I feel like if i did do all this it would cause "dis-harmony"... no bueno.
My other two coworkers, fellow ENFJs, always understands what i say and why i say it. and they brought up a good point of we always say yes, when we wanna say no, we lie or alter a story so we dont feel so bad when we say no. Its like a validation.
My thoughts are all over the place, I do apologize for this, Im new to typology, and its all due mainly to my lack of understanding certain thoughts and processes (i feel this is why... im always listening to my feelings)
anyones input into this and ways in which you better yourself will greatly help me.
fyi: I love being an ENFJ/ENFP