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This is a discussion on The Ask ENFJs for Relationship Advice on ENFJs Thread within the ENFJ Forum - The Givers forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; @ KC Tan Go after her with all your heart! Fuck that INTP! The girl's got a mind of her ...

  1. #21
    ESFP - The Performers

    @KC Tan

    Go after her with all your heart! Fuck that INTP!
    The girl's got a mind of her own, she can choose
    who she wants! Let her know you're an option!


    As to advantage or friendzoning or whatever,
    I wouldn't even care if I were you. I never
    feel better in my life than when I DAMN THE
    TORPEDOES. GIMMEE.
    Happy about Nothing., KC and Snuff.FilmStarlet thanked this post.

  2. #22
    Unknown


    If she's a devout Muslim, then you have to respect that which you of course know. Muslim traditions for the most part are anti dating and anti pre-marital relationship as you are already aware.

    You can seek a friendship and take it from there ... and if shez into liberal Islam, she may pursue a relationship with you. Good luck.

  3. #23
    ENFJ - The Givers

    Quote Originally Posted by Jawz View Post
    If she's a devout Muslim, then you have to respect that which you of course know. Muslim traditions for the most part are anti dating and anti pre-marital relationship as you are already aware.

    You can seek a friendship and take it from there ... and if shez into liberal Islam, she may pursue a relationship with you. Good luck.
    Quite the other way bro. She's not a Muslim but my competition is. He's a Muslim but even at that, not a devout one. Regardless, the legislation does not see your level of devotion.

    Fuckin sorry to say this but it's something to my advantage. Still, I wanna know whether or not I should take him seriously cause he's been spending a lot of time with her, though she does not seem intimate with him.


    Quote Originally Posted by FreeSpirit View Post
    Go after her with all your heart! Fuck that INTP!
    The girl's got a mind of her own, she can choose
    who she wants! Let her know you're an option!

    As to advantage or friendzoning or whatever,
    I wouldn't even care if I were you. I never
    feel better in my life than when I DAMN THE
    TORPEDOES. GIMMEE.
    For what it's worth, I think I should go into it with this mindset.

    The issue is not so much about him so much as it is perhaps me and her. If I got into it thinking how should I overtake him, I might end up just demeaning myself and looking like a jerk.

    Thanks there... you really got my eyes opened more with this.
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  5. #24
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    Quote Originally Posted by KC Tan View Post
    Thanks there... you really got my eyes opened more with this.
    Aah - sorry for mis-reading [TLDR - and I read it after your rant :p]

    No harm in competing then. I suppose being a little animalistic / primal in our approach to mating rituals sort of does work in a very darwinistic way. Usual cliches apply. Go for it.

    May the best man win :)


  6. #25
    ENFJ - The Givers

    ENFJ Males!!! I need your advice...

    When will people ever realize that this thread exists???

    Quote Originally Posted by claraliu View Post
    I have this ... thing.. with a guy and I'm trying to figure him out. I THINK he's an ENFJ but i'm not sure. We started "having a thing" (I honestly dont know what to call it) 3 years ago. We've always had this chemistry between us and constanly playfully fight and bicker. but 3 years ago I felt like he was slightly mad at me but he wouldnt say anything about it and said he just "gets randomly depressed sometimes". it bothered me so much so I erratically went over (ENTP D:) to him and told him i liked him, but quickly realized how vulnerable I was and said "but let's just stay friends"...... he responded with "is that okay with you" and then we just joked around as always and I left and it was like as if nothing happened afterwards.

    I know he's really focused in his work and doesn't mess around. he also has way too much self control, which he tried really hard to maintain. he knows what his future looks like and works at it..... we left our hometown 3 years ago and now only see each other a few times during the holidays and summer. however I KNOW there is still that tension (sexual tension ugh) and it hasnt left.

    Oh and by the way last time we saw each other was last new years when we both got drunk (because we cant do anything but bicker if we're sober) i bent over to kiss him and he jumped back a bit, but being the ENTP I am, i got annoyed and bent over and landed a peck on his lips... then i freaked out, ran out of the party, and went back. then he decides to WALK home within 2 minutes because his ride disappeared.....


    I DONT GET IT. I DONT UNDERSTAND HIM. help me :(
    Understand a Male NF? Impossible I say!!! Impossible!!!

    Hmm... I can relate to a lot of what your friend is saying. All that "random depression" is not as random as it seems. For myself, it has a lot to do with something that sort of relates to issues that we're mostly unhappy with. Things like unrequited love or generally being unhappy with the situation.

    To be honest, though there might be sexual tension, I don't think your "ENFJ" friend might see you in the same light as you see him. We often like to brush aside negative emotions and fool around for the sake of a happier environment while deep down inside, we may be broken as hell.

    Good chance is that your friend's focus on work may push him towards a non-relationship status cause he does not want be distracted or commit himself into a relationship he cannot attend to 100%. I'm not exactly sure cause I'm not him and I do not know him.

    Guys?
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  7. #26
    ENTP - The Visionaries

    Male entj's ! i need advice... you can read the story on this thread here: https://personalitycafe.com/enfj-foru...ur-advice.html

  8. #27
    INFP - The Idealists

    List the turn-ons for straight ENFJ females: from buff bodies to good hygiene to fun & moral characters or whatever

  9. #28
    INFJ - The Protectors

    Quote Originally Posted by KC Tan View Post
    I understand actually. However, a lot of it has to do with culture and what happens around this part of the world. Many women in general test men to see whether or not they would make good husbands or fathers. For my side, I'm testing to see whether or not they would make loyal partners.

    Regardless, I respect your point. Though it has noble reasons, the means to it is incredibly hurtful and testing. Personally, I do not enjoy the idea of it as well. Perhaps I would meet someone that would not have to make me resort to that, I hope I do. :3

    Well KC, I don't think it matters your type, it's just true, people appreciate something scarce more than something common.
    Being a very sincere INFJ, not at all a game player, I found with one man whom I dated and liked quite a bit that responding positively every time he wanted to get together caused him (perhaps) to take me for granted. Though, he was admittedly very high on the Pflegmatic side. His girl friend after me (I broke up with out explanation and he was left just scratching his head) once described him to me exactly as I'd known him to be.

    I hate to play games. But I also know I need to represent my reserve (which is very real, but introverted) more outwardly to thus hopefully make myself more interesting. I really do take my time to make up my mind about someone and that is why I broke up with that guy when I saw it wasn't a good fit. But my warm empathetic side makes me inclined to present very friendly.

    So, it's more like a discipline, a dance... You don't want to be too loose framed nor too stiff I think. The reason I didn't find a man in college was at that time I attracted all the pushy sorts, and ran away. Now a man who flirted but had been too mysterious would have had a better shot I think. So I think you're behaving appropriately... It's just nature, and will probably make you more interesting to someone.


    I like what you said about reading body language earlier. That was very insightful.
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  10. #29
    ENFJ - The Givers

    Quote Originally Posted by gaudy316 View Post
    List the turn-ons for straight ENFJ females: from buff bodies to good hygiene to fun & moral characters or whatever
    Well, I guess it would be adorable, vulnerable, sensitive, caring, deep pretty boys...
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  11. #30
    Unknown


    Quote Originally Posted by KC Tan View Post
    Well, I guess it would be adorable, vulnerable, sensitive, caring, deep pretty boys...
    lol ... you don't know many ENFJ women do you ;)

    I've seen a few ENFJ women chase after the exact opposite too :p
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