[ENFP] Making decisions....why is it so difficult choosing??!

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    Making decisions....why is it so difficult choosing??!

    I have immense issues deciding...on almost anything....

    I waffle back and forth on paint colors for weeks...on narrowing down list of things i want, or making a decision on things to get rid (will I need this???!) or what do I want to eat or make for dinner or create in clay...

    I often need to ask others their opinion (and sometimes I'm swayed but other times it doesn't help ONE BIT).

    I feel like possibilities are limitless and I NEED possibilities, but when it comes down to deciding, I kind of want it ALL.

    Maybe it's a fear of missing out or the grass is greener, or maybe it's the fear of making a wrong decision and dealing with regret, whether big or small...

    Anyone else this way?



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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    I wish I had 100 lifetimes to fit in all the things I want to do. Even then it wouldn't be enough.

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    Stop overthinking it. I think I go through phases of dithering and introspective to being ruthless. Sometimes you just need to cut off the conversation, take a leap even when you are unsure (because when are you ever sure?)

    I find that sometimes deciding the value of things I have to think "was this an issue that was present in mind before I started thinking about this?" if the answer was no, then get rid of it, you will forget about it and not miss it.

    When it comes to choosing colours for paints and the like... I normally experiment as I go, that's just a part of my style.

    If there are infinite possibilities then why would any of them be 'right' or 'wrong'? I don't think there is any true path and even the negative repercussions mean a story to tell, a lesson to learn and a reason to be a better person because of it. Would you rather a life of playing it safe? Maybe you would, but I wouldn't. All experiences are important.

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    I used to be this way a lot. As you get older, you learn to just trust your own instincts and go with your gut feeling. :)
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    I'm 40 and this learning is a slow process LOL

    I struggle with trusting or even knowing my intuition -_- Always second guessing myself even if I'm 99% sure I know the right answer.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Quote Originally Posted by PisceanMoonFox View Post
    I'm 40 and this learning is a slow process LOL

    I struggle with trusting or even knowing my intuition -_- Always second guessing myself even if I'm 99% sure I know the right answer.
    I hate saying this, but for me it has been the truth: I was like that until I started taking anxiety medication. My brain over-analyzed everything, I second guessed myself, didn't trust my intuition, generated way too many possibilities and outcomes therefore making it harder to predict what choice was right etc.

    In taking my medication, it means I get to slow down my thoughts and look at each one carefully. It's been a lot easier to make decisions and to trust in them since. I don't second-guess myself all that much anymore. :)
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    Quote Originally Posted by PisceanMoonFox View Post
    I have immense issues deciding...on almost anything....

    I waffle back and forth on paint colors for weeks...on narrowing down list of things i want, or making a decision on things to get rid (will I need this???!) or what do I want to eat or make for dinner or create in clay...

    I often need to ask others their opinion (and sometimes I'm swayed but other times it doesn't help ONE BIT).

    I feel like possibilities are limitless and I NEED possibilities, but when it comes down to deciding, I kind of want it ALL.

    Maybe it's a fear of missing out or the grass is greener, or maybe it's the fear of making a wrong decision and dealing with regret, whether big or small...

    Anyone else this way?
    Not at all. What do you need help deciding on?

    I have systems of reference for everything.

    Paint colour is an easy one- what's the mood of the room? I have a system of colors associated with each feeling. Menu options- do I need hearty comfort? Soup it is. There are people who have figured this out already, just Google chakras etc

    I can easily tap into decision mode by listening to rude music. Trust me it works. To start with, try stuff like Rihanna or Katy Perry - Peacock. "What you waiting for / stop acting like a beotch" - etc. It's like telling you to get stuff moving already.
    Last edited by Negotiator; 04-02-2018 at 01:57 PM.

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    I'm still learning to prioritize my decisions in life. Knowing and wanting to do so many things, I have to think about whats important first. That's always hard . No matter how hard I try to plan I end up going with the flow.


     

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