Soooo I haven't had much experience in jealousy and the few times I have it goes away in a week or 2 tops. But I think it's because I've never experienced romantic jealously til now.
I have been friends with this guy for a while now and it's gotten to the point where I keep looking for signs that he likes me but he's an INTJ. If he actually liked me he would have said it by now.
He calls or facetimes me almost everyday and before he started university we hung out every weekend. Now even though our universities are only like 1.3 hours away he doesn't really want to hangout in person unless there's a long break...though he doesn't even see his family on weekends either.
The jealousy is for really small things and it makes me feel nuts when I feel the little ping. Like last night he was going on about how he never noticed how small girl's hands are. My immediate thought was 'nooo who's hands is he looking at' Yes...I know I am crazy :-3
I also start to overthink a little haha cause I am tall, 167cm or 5'6. Tho he always calls me short since he is 189cm or 6'2 but still maybe he prefers girls who are actually short.
I think he just sees me as a really valuable friend and I want to break that and have him see me as a woman. Objectively I'm not unattractive and I think most of our core values align. He also has only ever had a crush on 1 girl who happened to be a friend of a friend and I found out she rejected him. Though he also told me that himself a little later. So I know he doesn't like anyone now.
-I'd like to either get these jealous feelings to subside or figure out how to attract him. Likely the first option because I have no way of knowing what he's attracted to since he never says anything! This is really weird for me as I've never had a problem with either of these things before.
My plan so far is to perhaps ignore him a little until these feelings subside. Part of the reason he's often on my mind is he gives me so much attention where he gives very little to others and it subsequently makes me feel special.