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This is a discussion on Am I the only ENFP in the world that isn't attracted to INTJs at all? within the ENFP Forum - The Inspirers forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; @ InsomniacForLife there's definitely an attraction with those who can match our energy. However, I believe that attraction doesn't have ...

  1. #31

    @InsomniacForLife

    there's definitely an attraction with those who can match our energy.
    However, I believe that attraction doesn't have enough staying power in terms of working relationships.
    I would probably not date another extrovert.

    I would honestly try to date my opposite, or near that.
    Right now, I have this attraction to an ISTJ, there's definitely a different connection than the usual NF's, I like NF's but... I think there's a tendency to lead to co-dependence....

    However, there are great rewards, especially in self development, when dating your opposite as long as there's mutual respect for each other and learn to support one another.
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  2. #32

    Quote Originally Posted by WhySoStan View Post
    @InsomniacForLife

    there's definitely an attraction with those who can match our energy.
    However, I believe that attraction doesn't have enough staying power in terms of working relationships.
    I would probably not date another extrovert.

    I would honestly try to date my opposite, or near that.
    Right now, I have this attraction to an ISTJ, there's definitely a different connection than the usual NF's, I like NF's but... I think there's a tendency to lead to co-dependence....

    However, there are great rewards, especially in self development, when dating your opposite as long as there's mutual respect for each other and learn to support one another.
    I definitely agree that opposites often attract! And if the two opposites are mature and respect each other, it can work great long term. In fact type doesn’t predict comparability much if both people are mature.

    In my experience though actually observing people in relationships, when “opposites attract”, it usually seems like it is a very passionate pairing, but long term their differences in personality make it really tough to work and there’s lots of arguing. It CAN work, but takes a lot of patience and understanding since the two people are so different, whereas two NFs would have less big differences to worry about.

    I also think being too similar can cause problems. I’m not necessarily attracted to people who are like me, and I love a good balance in a relationship. Mainly I was just saying that I don’t relate to other ENFPs when I have read online about what they find attractive lol.

  3. #33

    @Sandstread I don’t even know how to respond to your long rambling tangents because you’re not really making much logical sense.

    Quote Originally Posted by Sandstread View Post
    Sad to hear you are embracing the acceptance to remain a trophy wife. I wouldn't do that in your position. I would find ways to own my shit and get respected as a person rather than a piece of meat. And trust me, women trophy alpha males a great deal. And apart of genetics, just try adding a hedge fund to it with military vet back ground.
    Dude, do you even have any clue what a trophy wife is? A trophy wife is a woman who is really attractive and their husband only values their looks and loves to show off their attractive wife to others in order to maintain a certain status symbol.


    Not sure how me wanting a relationship with someone which is outgoing, warm, goofy, and sensitive makes me a fucking trophy wife who won’t ever get respect...


    Please take your alpha male nonsense somewhere else.
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    Quote Originally Posted by angelcat View Post

    I like to feel secure in a friendship / relationship and high Te's are not into drama, which makes them emotionally low-maintenance, which is perfect for me. I like to DISCUSS things and not worry about insulting people or being misunderstood.
    And vice versa. Tough ENFP has descriptions of being easily offended, from what i have seen its not always the case.
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  6. #35

    Did I rile you up?

    Delighted to see this cute part of you. Also the language you're using that unveils your upbringing almost covers up the sensitive and sensual side of you. Feel free to dance around the hystery strip stick as much as your soul stands. Emotional instability is a very attractive feature in a person, but for just for psychopaths, not normal losers such as me. Heck Im a lad that should go back to kindergarten to relearn what the meaning of a trophy wife is, in your opinion, at least. And my ramblings .. Im so stupid, I should've been more concise. Taking note and delivering that this time as a last note.. ;)

    Do you know what I fancy? All the teasing my wife does. For instance she would let me rip off her clothes in the secondary hall way that connects the garages with the west wing of the house just like that, no resistance at all. Then I would put her against our mirror, and she is only 9cm shorter than me at my 189, she will just raise to her toes and pull me slowly in from behind while she is looking into my eyes using the mirror in front of us. Then when ever I got excited, she would just barrier that right there and gesturing that only she will move from there on. She will do the back and forth move there in the most insanely slow manner for 20,30,40 mins and not let me take her to be properly manhandled on the hall way sofa or fucken anywhere at all. Then shed just leave leaving me just like that, unfinished there like Id be a school boy or the equivalent. That teasing thats insanely arousing keeps my thoughts on her all the time. That activity can be easily the outcome of a "thats nonsense" or "you're just meaner than usual" or "maybe you were watching her after all" flirts.

    Thats what my kinky goddess is really all about. Teasing. And if that ever goes off, its the most sensitive, sensual and caring lovemaking I can ever have on Earth. Its so beautiful I literally lack word selections to describe its perfection. And, its really easy to commit to that too. Let me show you.

    Cum inside of me.
    No way.
    Pls, Pls, PLZ, cum inside - pulling me in with legs
    Not gonna happen, thats too tight what your doing, can't fucking breath properly any longer
    I want your child, cum ... cum ... (with a soft voice) cummmm
    Your insane Im not doing that now
    Ill pull the trigger if you won't
    What the hell are you talking about
    pulls one of the Glocks from under the pillow and points it to my head. Cum, or Ill go for it
    Your hilarious, the magazines are empty, the gun is not loaded bc I have to clean it first.
    (And then the enfp gets riled up, just like you're doing here now:)
    Youre a wanker. A looser. A pork. All of your friends are a bunch of butt hurts. You're a candy box thats fricken closed all the time. I should've never married you, that tree over there is more desirable than you are. I bet your out of ammo with smt else too than just that water pistol your carrying with you all the time like THAT would be your wife. Im off. Its no pussy for you till you're cuming inside like a man, go fuck other women if you need to, I don't like you anylonger. And your not sleeping in our bed tonight. Fucking candy box.

    Or the wedding night.
    Now.
    Wait, no..
    Yes.
    No, you'll get pregnant and we will be finished with the fun.
    I don't care, do me all the way.
    Give me one more day.
    Cum.
    Wait, I need to take a leak

    We didn't know that she was actually pregnant before we even got married. I guess the pull out technique doesn't always work that well, does it.

    So my opinion about you women is that all you ever want is to use us men for seed. Thats like your ultimate goal.

    I handed you over the Alpha definition so that when you'll take in what you love the most, it will be of highest quality possible.

    Now handing over virginity easily is everyones own business. In my social circles that is the biggest risk a woman can EVER take. So, when you united alpha and old money thats more or less the only single most important thing those men will ever demand. The rest is negotiable. Why, because they dislike the meaning of other men seeding the mother of their child. The rest of the women may brought in as a New Year´s eve presents or B-Day presents. But never ever as mothers. Sorry if that is the case, but be positive about it, there will be tons of alpha males who aren't upper upper class and will engage you with real love. a 9/10 is really not that bad at all. Its just socioeconomics, thats really it. The rest is the same, more or less.

    Running short of time here, we are leaving Russia and entering N-E Norway, so Im kinda forced to do what I was intending in the 1st place as I did mention I thought that was all the value I could have ever brought to you, right there on that Alpha shit. Read the inscription again. And again. N again. Im not here to correct enfps vision of intj-enfp relationship as much as Id genuinely love to see you happier in the nearest possible future.

    You own your expectations, be honest about your needs, get a theoretical perception what it is that you're talking about, learn to handle men such as the looser of me, and you shall make it. Totally doable.

    And. As mentioned before, you can also reconsider having an enfp man. They are who you are.

    A hug

  7. #36

    you must be the chosen one! omg!

    because all of the enfp i know, is always attracted to intj..

  8. #37

    Well... I have no idea how this became a thread about alpha males, sexual fantasies and some really creepy come ons... I'll just ignore that side of the thread.



    Quote Originally Posted by angelcat View Post
    I hate to be a contrarian (lies, all lies, I LIVE to be a contrarian) but... I actually do like INTJs.

    INTJ fictional characters are pretty much the only ones I'm attracted to, personality wise (and a few ISTJs). IRL, I get along well with INTJs. They center my Te and calm down my Ne a great deal, which helps me focus and finish things. I have found a few of them humorless but not all of them (the humorless one was a 5w4 and a bit moody and emotional to boot, but rather arrogant).

    I like to feel secure in a friendship / relationship and high Te's are not into drama, which makes them emotionally low-maintenance, which is perfect for me. I like to DISCUSS things and not worry about insulting people or being misunderstood.
    The honesty of Te is something I love. Straight to the point, reliable and you know it's not "just what they think you want to hear". I think people assume that the blunt attitude means rude, maybe it is to some people but I've experienced how kind high Te can be and it's just heartwarming. Weird thing to say about Te? Maybe, but life is too short for games and drama that feelers can perpetuate.
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  9. #38

    F.Failing.

    If you understood any of that, you'd already have an enfp wife too. Though. If you get a nice one then thats a match. You're a nice guy.

    Anyway. Time´ll tell.

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    Yeah, back to the topic @InsomniacForLife ! Have you ever heard of attachment styles (dismissive avoidant, anxious, and secure) ? I've come across these concepts on this forum quite often, I find them relevant and useful to analyse relationship dynamics. And you know what ? The stereotypical portraits of INTJs (and particularly INTJ men) are textbook descriptions of people with a dismissive avoidant attachment style (most often very carrier oriented, solitary, fiercely independant, didn't get much validation/affection during childhood, avoid vulnerability at all costs, reject people as soon as they develop intimacy...). So, it sounds like you're a perfectly secure and sane person who wants a symmetrical relationship with someone who's not afraid of being vulnerable, caring, and who can make you feel comfortable.
    Alas the ENFP girls you mentioned earlier, and who swoon over stereotypical INTJs who "play hard to get", they probably have an anxious attachment style, leading them to cling to dismissive avoidants. They'll eventually learn to reject this type of guys at all costs.
    So, yeah, it's good news that you don't find anything attractive in these portraits ! and these unhealthy patterns shouldn't be idealized at all.


     

    Here's a spot on video on dismissive avoidants.

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