Hello everyone. :) There is something that I have been curious about for quite some time now. Something I have noticed is how people say ALL the time is that ENFPs and INTJs are irresistibly attracted to one another... and I just don't feel that way at all. I just have never been attracted to extremely serious and antisocial individuals. All of my past relationships were with pretty outgoing guys who were sweet and lovable and brought out and appreciated my goofy side. I always like the guys who make me laugh and who want to go on exciting adventures with me.
Or if a guy is more on the quiet side, I am drawn to him because of how sweet and warm he is to be around and how comfortable he makes me.
I'm also sensitive and emotional and the idea of being with someone who is extremely critical and harsh and emotionally distant in my opinion sounds like an awful relationship for me personally.
No hate on INTJs at all... but I am just wondering if I am the only ENFP in the world who is into warm, sensitive, goofy, outgoing guys and not introverted, cold, logical, critical guys who never smile. I'm also extremely turned off by arrogance and over confidence and people who think they are smarter than everyone else around them and look down on other people.
Again, not hating on that type and I know some awesome INTJs, but I don't think I could ever truly enjoy a romantic relationship with someone who embodies what an INTJ is like.
I'm also wondering if I this is because I am a very shy ENFP, and can be pretty guarded when meeting new people. I've heard that ENFPs usually have to pursue INTJs for a long time before they finally get to them, but I definitely am too insecure to continually bother someone without letting me know that they feel the same way about me, since I would worry that I am just annoying them. Relationships usually start for me when someone else pursues me and breaks through my shyness.
Any other ENFPs relate, or am I alone here? Maybe I'm not an ENFP?
Btw, I am 99% sure I am an ENFP... though for awhile I thought I was an INFJ or an INFP... and to be honest I debate what my true type is quite frequently, but I am fairly certain that ENFP is my true type.
Edit: maybe I still haven't met the right INTJ.