My close friend (ENFP) and I have been nearly obsessed with MBTI lately, though its mainly me who gets stuck on things like this... Anyway, I've been way too complicated over this and am not completely sure what my type is, however once we considered the large probability that I was an ENTJ, my friend and I's dynamic in our relationship totally flipped. She's so easily offended by everything I say and constantly blames "my Te" and says I'm constantly threatening her and ignoring her Fe.... We are constantly arguing and she turns it on me because ENTJs are supposed to be argumentative whereas ENFPs are supposed to get along with everyone. I haven't changed my behavior but we literally can't go a day without arguing and it all seems to ccome from her nit picking the way I word something that is exactly the same as I have always spoken to her... I don't even know what to do about it anymore and I struggle to constantly accommodate to her.
Typically, these fights start with my expressing my ideas on something. Then she reacts to them emotionally (when I'm looking for her thoughts on an idea...which I've communicated to her) and either lashes out at me or tells me I've managed to hurt her feelings and/or make her mad with something I found to be completely irrelevant to her entirely... Then when I try to explain myself she gets mad at me for arguing, saying that she knew I didn't mean it like she took it, that's just how she took it. It's a nightmare.
Do you know what she could be feeling or thinking that's making this extreme change?