This is a discussion on Questions to an ENFP on absolutely ANYTHING :) within the ENFP Forum - The Inspirers forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by FePa You haven't met me yet In that case, don't be surprised if actually nibble on your ...
I briefly dated an enfj once and most enfp would enjoy ENFJs but for me it was the worst experience that I've ever had - the Fe was too strong for me and I hate being told what's wrong with me when I don't think it's wrong ( at least with my ENTP exes the objective criticism make sense and with my istp I can explain myself with the enfj the way we perceive things are so different it's hard to understand and as an enfp I do not like it when something I enjoy about myself gets an opinion on ) also the enfj had jealousy problem which was a big turn off for me - he asked me not to hug or banter with my guy friends bc it's disrespectful to our relationship and has a tendency to get confuse if I space out - it hurts him because he thinks that I'm thinking about something and unwilling to share - my FE friends and mom also have this problem with me as to a perceiver spaces out so they don't really care. I don't really value order bc I work well and strong Fe clashes with my Fi big time . I'm actually ok with Js like xstj/xntjs I think it's just the strong FE that I cannot cooperate with . But of course that's just me- there's a thread on PerC I'll link to you later that says enfp work best with ENFJs :)
I dunno though, I loved my ENFJ ex deeply. Like real deep. Not puddle deep.
She did have the tendency to be overly nitpicky and she would criticise me because she was trying to "help," which I guess I can see in hindsight but, constructive criticism is always better and like you said, I hate someone telling me to change my ways just because they think their way is better. I mean, I'm not asking them to suffer my existence, so if I'm that bad, I'll gladly show them to the door. I don't need that kind of negativity in my life, thanks.
Having said that, ENFJs are amazing. Really sweet and caring and behind that nitpicky-ness is someone who is so loyal they'd die for you if they had to. And they're always thinking of little ways to make your life that bit easier, which is so cute. I guess their super strong Fe makes them perceptive to things that you're not always aware of.
Ah, I love me some ENFJs.
I guess I'll have to wrestle Lizabeth for first dibbs on them as well :p