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#1 ·
​What are some questions you'd like to ask ENFPs?
Any questions, from random to intellectual or completely offensive, welcome! : D
 
#101 ·
You're right, though I wanted to make that clear because so many people regard ENFPs as dumb and stupid.
Michio Kaku is an ENFP and he built a particle accelerator when he was in high school, and went on to become on the forefront of theoretical physics, making an equation for string theory.
Among Kaku, there is his fellow famous physicist Brian Cox that is an ENFP.
Then there are the two ENTPs that I adore, Stephen Fry and Neil deGrasse Tyson.

I think that as long as ENFPs are inspired to learn and to delve among the deepest, then by the fact that they're empathetic and visibly interested in their topic; they'll be able to exceed in greater aspects than any other type, because they'll inspire others to share that interest, and to dig deep like they have.

And I think it's the fault of the "modern" education systems that ENFPs are viewed as being unintelligent, as the greatest development in schools is merely the inclusion of computers, and not a reworking of the system itself.
I was actually thinking today that people like Kaku should be key figures in a rewriting of education, one that stimulates people that are disregarded by it, by putting concepts first and applications second.

The grind of mathematics being replaced with a "this is how mathematics charts the world", followed by a few equations set for homework. Away with the mundane graphs, in with images. I think that mathematics is a language that binds humans to the world, but we're teaching it to children as the translated version first, resulting in many not understanding what it is they're learning.

tl;dr
INTJs and INTPs are the traditionalists of intelligence, it's the ENxPs that can make full use of the modern media.
Whereas the INTxs drive the development of science, the ENxPs drive the motive for self-education, and I think that's much more admirable.

Intelligence comes in so many forms, and as long as they exceed expectations, they're amazing.
And anyone who doesn't realise that is -- as anyone exceptional enough at anything has the power to move society -- stupid.
 
#102 ·
Michio Kaku is an ENFP and he built a particle accelerator when he was in high school, and went on to become on the forefront of theoretical physics, making an equation for string theory.
Among Kaku, there is his fellow famous physicist Brian Cox that is an ENFP.
Then there are the two ENTPs that I adore, Stephen Fry and Neil deGrasse Tyson.

I think that as long as ENFPs are inspired to learn and to delve among the deepest, then by the fact that they're empathetic and visibly interested in their topic; they'll be able to exceed in greater aspects than any other type, because they'll inspire others to share that interest, and to dig deep like they have.

And I think it's the fault of the "modern" education systems that ENFPs are viewed as being unintelligent, as the greatest development in schools is merely the inclusion of computers, and not a reworking of the system itself.
I was actually thinking today that people like Kaku should be key figures in a rewriting of education, one that stimulates people that are disregarded by it, by putting concepts first and applications second.

The grind of mathematics being replaced with a "this is how mathematics charts the world", followed by a few equations set for homework. Away with the mundane graphs, in with images. I think that mathematics is a language that binds humans to the world, but we're teaching it to children as the translated version first, resulting in many not understanding what it is they're learning.

tl;dr
INTJs and INTPs are the traditionalists of intelligence, it's the ENxPs that can make full use of the modern media.
Whereas the INTxs drive the development of science, the ENxPs drive the motive for self-education, and I think that's much more admirable.

Intelligence comes in so many forms, and as long as they exceed expectations, they're amazing.
And anyone who doesn't realise that is -- as anyone exceptional enough at anything has the power to move society -- stupid.
You just nailed down all my problems with school and why I dropped college. I wasn't inspired by it, it was frustrating and most of the thinks I couldn't question the teachers, I had to take it all in and that annoys me to no end. I'm also the kind of person who is helped to focus by music that's a big no no in schools.
 
#106 ·
In movie ‘Last of the Mohicans’ Daniel Day-Lewis’ character has the following conversation with the red headed guy from Sleepy Hallow…

Daniel Plainview: "No, I'm going to Kentucky."
Ginger from Sleepy Hallow: "How can you go to Kentucky in the middle of a war?"
Daniel Plainview "You face north, turn left, and walk. It's west of here."

Now this conversation is supposed to be taking place in New York (although filmed in North Carolina). How is Daniel Day-Lewis going to get to Kentucky from New York by following the directions he listed?
 
#107 ·
In movie ‘Last of the Mohicans’ Daniel Day-Lewis’ character has the following conversation with the red headed guy from Sleepy Hallow…

Daniel Plainview: "No, I'm going to Kentucky."
Ginger from Sleepy Hallow: "How can you go to Kentucky in the middle of a war?"
Daniel Plainview "You face north, turn left, and walk. It's west of here."

Now this conversation is supposed to be taking place in New York (although filmed in North Carolina). How is Daniel Day-Lewis going to get to Kentucky from New York by following the directions he listed?
He didn't say "face your left", but turn left; the turn itself involving an unspecified number of degrees, a number that was left unspecified as Plainview didn't see that Ginger had any intention of going and thereby needn't be bothered with the mundane details. So technically by facing North and then turning left and walking, you could get anywhere on Earth, as even a complete revolution still counts as a 'turn'.

And perhaps his assertion that it is 'west of here' was a reference to the politics in Kentunky resembling Europe, whereas New York may have had more Eastern -- or at least less harshly European -- political scene.
 
#109 ·
My next question involves the opening from the latest batman movie. As you can see, the CIA officer in the beginning says that only 1 of the 3 captured men will live because he has only reported 1 extra person in his flight plan. However in his interrogation he does not kill them, just creates the illusion to intimidate the others. Now, at 3:45 Bane makes one of the men stay behind on the plane when it crashes because “They are expecting one of us in the wreckage.”

This does not make sense to me. It would appear that the CIA officer was bluffing about killing 2 of the 3 men. Now, you may argue that the CIA officer was simply trying to intimidate them by faking to throw out of a plane and further, more lethal interrogation tactics would have followed, which may very well be the case. I will argue that that is moot because the US Govt investigating the plane crash will notice something is amiss, that many of the bodies had been shot and the pilots do not appear to have been killed right away, instead they can be heard shouting ‘May day!’ It is a safe assumption that they continued to broadcast what was happening. Ergo, the plan of making it appear as if the plane crashed due to mechanical, weather or human error would not work.

So why does Bane make the one guy stay behind?

 
#110 ·
My next question involves the opening from the latest batman movie. As you can see, the CIA officer in the beginning says that only 1 of the 3 captured men will live because he has only reported 1 extra person in his flight plan. However in his interrogation he does not kill them, just creates the illusion to intimidate the others. Now, at 3:45 Bane makes one of the men stay behind on the plane when it crashes because “They are expecting one of us in the wreckage.”

This does not make sense to me. It would appear that the CIA officer was bluffing about killing 2 of the 3 men. Now, you may argue that the CIA officer was simply trying to intimidate them by faking to throw out of a plane and further, more lethal interrogation tactics would have followed, which may very well be the case. I will argue that that is moot because the US Govt investigating the plane crash will notice something is amiss, that many of the bodies had been shot and the pilots do not appear to have been killed right away, instead they can be heard shouting ‘May day!’ It is a safe assumption that they continued to broadcast what was happening. Ergo, the plan of making it appear as if the plane crashed due to mechanical, weather or human error would not work.

So why does Bane make the one guy stay behind?

What...?
 
#111 ·
How easy is it to offend an ENFP?
In my case it's pretty easy.
Specially if:
-You tell me to be a different person;
-You critic everything I do;
-You try to manipulate me or control me;
-You force me to do something in a conventional way, if my creativity isn't appreciated;
-You tell me I am ignorant person;
-YOU TELL ME TO SHUT UP.
 
#113 ·
In my case it's pretty easy.
Specially if:
-You tell me to be a different person;
-You critic everything I do;
-You try to manipulate me or control me;
-You force me to do something in a conventional way, if my creativity isn't appreciated;
-You tell me I am ignorant person;
-YOU TELL ME TO SHUT UP.
I would say ENTP, xSTP, INFJ and INFP.
What kind of ENTPs do you know that don't do at least one of those semi-regularly?
 
#114 ·
My best of all friends was an INFP, but I got the best and worse of the INFP world. You guys are indeed emotional to the point of illogicality, but also can put up very good talks about emotions which is great.
I've seen ignorant people from pretty much all types. It mostly has to with common sense that people lack more and more.
Maybe, but ENFPs do seem to have moments where they can mindblown T types with the logic of their arguments, sometimes it's just depends on what the topic is.
I've meet someone before (thought not an ENFP) that does kinda the same. She always needs me to speak firstly but when I don't she misses my presence. Maybe she's doing the same to you?
You're welcome.
Does largely depend on the individual. My ENFP mother is one of the most illogical people I've ever met, not to say she can't be intelligent in some ways, but even I am frustrated with her sense of logic. I've had many air-headed ENFP friends as well, but I do have one who amazes me with reason and insight. I hope to meet more like her.

ESFPs always surprise me as well. Things often fly over their head and they'll say something that always has me wondering "WTF is wrong with you, what kind of thought process do you use?" But then they'll say something highly insightful that may even challenge my mind or just notice something out of the ordinary which will leave me realizing "They just might be intelligent after all!"

I am an ENFP and I have done the whole expecting people to comment/like my facebook posts, but I don't do the same for them. Not because I don't like the person, but I'm lazy. Sometimes, I don't even realize that people get upset about it, because I don't view Facebook other social media sites as the barometer for our friendship. When she's high/drunk, you're probably on her mind, which is why she's actively commenting on/liking your posts. I would actually take that a sign that you are on her mind and that she is thinking about you.
As for the other posts that may or may not be about you, the only way you're going to find out if they are is if you ask her. As an ENFP, I like to think my passive agressive posts are a code that can't be cracked, but it doesn't really take a genius to realize I'm complaining about someone/something or something is bothering me. But I don't like confrontations. I don't know any type that likes them, and that's not necessarily an ENFP thing, but if someone takes the confrontation on themselves, then I will respond truthfully, sometimes without tact, but always without any agendas. I don't like playing games and I want things to be resolved.
As for me, I have been separated by boyfriends before, and still managed to maintain a relationship with them via skype, im, facebook, the phone. So if it's just distance keeping us from a physical face to face relationship, I'd be hesitant to actually start any sort of relationship if the only thing holding back the other person is because we can't have a face to face relationship.
If they really wanted to be with me, they would be and wouldn't let geographic distance keep us apart.

TL;DR EFPS hate confrontation and won't instigate an honest discussion unless they are forced to do so. (Usually by being confronted by other people).
I realize now that there is likely no real reason she doesn't comment or like my posts. But her own posts, which are continuously coincidental, confuse me. Passive aggressive might be a great way to describe her actually. I'm the first to analyze, but I've never felt the need to analyze some one so much as with her; I can't help it when everything seems to scream "hidden meaning."

The whole confrontation and playing games thing is what gets me though. I hate playing games as well, but it seems that is what she's doing. And I would like to confront her, but am hesitant from past experience. I have no problem with confrontation if it aims to solve some predicament, especially personal and emotionally related, but I've confronted people before, specifically an ESFP and ENFJ, despite it being extremely difficult for me, and was either lied to or ignored. So you would not mind being questioned about passive aggressive posts? As much as I want to directly question her, I don't want to make things worse by demanding her to deal with something she's not ready to deal with and have her ending up resenting me.=/

I'd rather forget I ever met her because she recently said something hurtful to me for the first time. Apparently I offended her, and after I apologized and explained I meant no bad intentions, she was still rude to me. What blows my mind is she basically told me she doesn't want to hear what I have to say, that I need to maintain an open mind and stop worrying about her posts. It took me aback because she told me before that she highly values my opinions. Honestly, she is a tragic mess. She is dealing with a lot of pain from past life, getting over an ex-boyfriend, and possibly internal issues with liking women though she has been with one in the past. It makes me sad because I don't want to see her this way, but I can't waste time on some one who is going to play games.


PS. Thank you. I really appreciate both your opinions.=]]
 
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#115 ·
So, I naturally have a tendency to walk into rooms and put people on edge. It's like when you're in class and somebody walks in with an in-charge vibe. Due to this, people find me scary, and I wish they didn't cause I want to be able to have a good time with them.

Do you guys ever get so intimidated that you completely go silent or just really nervous that you're quiet to people?

There is one girl (in college, in a class with me) who seems to have the ENFP vibe, but whenever I'm in the room she goes silent. This sucks because there are days when I hope I can meet an ENFP that would look past some bullshit aura I give off that I don't know how to change.

If you do can you share experiences, and maybe some insight to what's going on in your heads at these moments?
 
#116 ·
So, I naturally have a tendency to walk into rooms and put people on edge. It's like when you're in class and somebody walks in with an in-charge vibe. Due to this, people find me scary, and I wish they didn't cause I want to be able to have a good time with them.

Do you guys ever get so intimidated that you completely go silent or just really nervous that you're quiet to people?

There is one girl (in college, in a class with me) who seems to have the ENFP vibe, but whenever I'm in the room she goes silent. This sucks because there are days when I hope I can meet an ENFP that would look past some bullshit aura I give off that I don't know how to change.

If you do can you share experiences, and maybe some insight to what's going on in your heads at these moments?
I'm actually generally quiet around new people. I can be shy like that.

I will generally approach someone if I can tell they are the introverted type. I'll find something for us to talk about. Even better, I'll find something for us to debate (since I am actually trying to develop my Te more). It just saddens me when people don't wanna debate with me... :(
 
#117 ·
Does largely depend on the individual. My ENFP mother is one of the most illogical people I've ever met, not to say she can't be intelligent in some ways, but even I am frustrated with her sense of logic. I've had many air-headed ENFP friends as well, but I do have one who amazes me with reason and insight. I hope to meet more like her.

ESFPs always surprise me as well. Things often fly over their head and they'll say something that always has me wondering "WTF is wrong with you, what kind of thought process do you use?" But then they'll say something highly insightful that may even challenge my mind or just notice something out of the ordinary which will leave me realizing "They just might be intelligent after all!"

That's true. My INFP was a very wise person even though he was so hurt (or maybe because of it). Illogical ENTPs? Now that's something I don't want to see, though I have my ESFJ father to be illogical. Both my mother and brother and T types and they often faceplam at the things he says, even I do so. Sometimes he goes as far as not explaining his logic leaving us to think that he does things just because.

I have not meet ESFPs enough, just a ESFJ. I have this guy in class, a really arrogant asshole, that I think is a ExTJ though. I don't know why but J types piss me off sometimes.

PS. Thank you. I really appreciate both your opinions.=]]
You're welcome!


So, I naturally have a tendency to walk into rooms and put people on edge. It's like when you're in class and somebody walks in with an in-charge vibe. Due to this, people find me scary, and I wish they didn't cause I want to be able to have a good time with them.

Do you guys ever get so intimidated that you completely go silent or just really nervous that you're quiet to people?

There is one girl (in college, in a class with me) who seems to have the ENFP vibe, but whenever I'm in the room she goes silent. This sucks because there are days when I hope I can meet an ENFP that would look past some bullshit aura I give off that I don't know how to change.

If you do can you share experiences, and maybe some insight to what's going on in your heads at these moments?
@mr. rozay No, I have not meet someone that has been able to do that. I feel inferior near my date, but that's because hes a highly intelligent person.
 
#118 ·
@mr. rozay One thing I might suggest is to approach her yourself and see if she opens up and relaxes a bit. I can behave similarly if I like a guy, but I tend to stare at him with rosy cheeks...I don't tend to approach a crush unless of course I can tell he's introverted (but even then if I do, it's usually just a hello).
 
#119 ·
I'm bored, had this tab open and Ni-Te'd the answers to all the questions I was going to ask (yes though it'd require a developed Te; romantic attraction is really just interest applied with emotion, so of course; Ne-Fi asks questions and wonders how it feels about them, Fi-Ne feels things and asks questions about why; highly romanticised as a result of Fi, you'd have to weigh against ENTPs for a solid comparison).

Have a rhyming acrostic poem with each letter describing it's related function.

Effervescent, energetic and an excitable friend.
Never shys from knowledge, which is chased to no end.
Frequently fraught with feelings, from love to dismay
Pretentious, a little, but cool enough that it's okay :p


In case it wasn't apparent, ENFPs are my favourite type these days (Sorry INFPs).
 
#120 ·
Would you be offended by the bossy tone of the coworker?
Why or why not?
Not at the 'bossy tone', but maybe at not even having room for choosing what to do among the things that must be finished. Maybe.

How does an ENFP feel about his or her friendship with an ENTP?
Depends on the ENTP, I guess.

The ones I've known have all been a riot. The positives outweighted the negatives, so the dynamics worked. But then, ENTPs come few and far between, so I have no way to know if my experience is the rule, or the exception.

Do you guys ever get so intimidated that you completely go silent or just really nervous that you're quiet to people?
I have been known to go rather quiet in the presence of certain people, but not because I'm intimidated. Usually, it's either someone I have a HUGE crush on, or someone whose guts I can't stand so I'd rather bite my tongue.

Not saying that the ENFP you know loves you or hates you; just sharing my experience.
 
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