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    I want to see mad ENFPs, please!

    Hi everybody,

    This is your friendly / grumpy INFJ, here to ask you to show me a mad ENFP! (Sorry if this has been asked before).
    Bonus points if it's a healthy variation of mad. Righteously Fi mad... Or bossily Te mad, I want to see it!

    Now, I know this is asking a lot... For you to cross the magical boundary line leading to unhappy emotions, during happy'ish moments while socializing here on the forum.
    So, by all means, take your time... wait until you have a bad day and you need a place to vent, or until you suit up in armour so you can have fun with it. We'll wait till you're ready.

    You can post video of characters, or go off on a tirade, or just tell a story of your bigger blowups, whatever works for you. Just don't make yourself sad, or else. (I don't know what else).
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Once my sister was bugging me, so I tried pushing her down the stairs by kicking my leg back at her. I got in a lot of trouble for that. I was about 7-9?

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    I got annoyed at someone this morning. He was lying to me while kind of trying to flirt. Lying/covering stuff up annoys me and add an “As if!” component to it and... I’m laughing now...
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    Oh... we could talk about the kids at the border. You could hear me get upset.

    Lol.... the idea of trying to get me to a certain state is making me laugh, though...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Llyralen View Post
    I got annoyed at someone this morning. He was lying to me while kind of trying to flirt. Lying/covering stuff up annoys me and add an “As if!” component to it and... I’m laughing now...
    It's so insulting, isn't it? When someone doesn't realize how perceptive you are?! LOL... they prove their dumbness.

    The kids make me too sad to get mad the way I want to. I don't know how that works, but, it seems to be consistently the case.

    Ok, here is something that makes me purely mad, and nothing else... dang ENTP landlord... he calls my mom "Betty Boop" (among many other nicknames, none of which are flattering)… and tried to order her to date a friend of his, who is like 30 years older than her, unhygienic, an addict, and really obnoxious. Then he talked over our mutual outrage with his not-helping explanation that she could "take care of him, he needs it".


    I think I was seeing red.


    Ok... so imagine someone talking like that to your mom, or sister, or daughter, or... well, does it make you mad? Or do you just snort in derision?

    What do you do when you're really seriously mad? I want to know.
    What is the best way to help when you're mad - leave you alone, be mad too, offer support? (this was the motive behind the whole topic ;) )
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    You mean other than me snarking at Ni doms on personality cafe who seem to love equating mistyped puppy ESFx people as ENFPs to appease their lonely, emo existence?

    -Shoved an ESFP friend against a wall and ripped a necklace off her neck when she and her group of friends overly teased me

    -Killed ISFP cousin's hamster by dropping it from a balcony in my childhood because of a similar scenario

    -Humiliated a customer in front of everyone for trying my patience at work

    -Easily stonewall people for good and drop them from my life if they annoy and/or are toxic for me
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sour Roses View Post
    It's so insulting, isn't it? When someone doesn't realize how perceptive you are?! LOL... they prove their dumbness.

    The kids make me too sad to get mad the way I want to. I don't know how that works, but, it seems to be consistently the case.

    Ok, here is something that makes me purely mad, and nothing else... dang ENTP landlord... he calls my mom "Betty Boop" (among many other nicknames, none of which are flattering)… and tried to order her to date a friend of his, who is like 30 years older than her, unhygienic, an addict, and really obnoxious. Then he talked over our mutual outrage with his not-helping explanation that she could "take care of him, he needs it".


    I think I was seeing red.


    Ok... so imagine someone talking like that to your mom, or sister, or daughter, or... well, does it make you mad? Or do you just snort in derision?

    What do you do when you're really seriously mad? I want to know.
    What is the best way to help when you're mad - leave you alone, be mad too, offer support? (this was the motive behind the whole topic ;) )
    I used to sing Gwen Stephani covers in a band that did more Sublime covers than anything... for a summer, that is.
    We did this one.


    Okay, but I think my focus when I get mad and offended is to figure out how to do the right thing. And that calms me for some reason. The right thing includes telling someone off if needed. Guys (your landlord) just think really differently about this kind of stuff sometimes. Sometimes they don't see how the woman would be seriously inconvenienced or unhappy and they're just like "Hey you're single! And hey YOU'RE single. What could go wrong?"
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sour Roses View Post
    Ok... so imagine someone talking like that to your mom, or sister, or daughter, or... well, does it make you mad? Or do you just snort in derision?

    What do you do when you're really seriously mad? I want to know.
    What is the best way to help when you're mad - leave you alone, be mad too, offer support? (this was the motive behind the whole topic ;) )
    I think I'd laugh it off if that happened and then automatically return a verbal backlash of sorts, something along the lines of "you think my mom would ever want to date an old geezer? Find him a nanny or something."

    I usually brush things off and give myself reasons to not get mad, but when all reason are depleted I ask the person to seriously reconsider going forward with the same attitude and see no respect for my wishes, there comes an ultimatum. I brainstorm all the stuff I'd like to do to the person in my head, be it flaying, cutting their bowels open, pulling their teeth out and other sadistic stuff, and that calms me down, because imagining that happen in my head brings some sort of release, then the conscience comes to the rescue and asks me what kind of man I want to be. Then I can use Te in a more objective way that'd let me display my Fi values in the right manner.

    Then I come to a decision of what action I will take next time I see them and they still disrespect me. Usually they don't see it coming, since every action is well thought out. That's when I'd say I'm in perfect Se mode, everything becomes slower, I feel in perfect control and all hell breaks loose in just the right manner, I never get out of control when it happens, I do what I was set out to do and call mission complete when I've finished.

    I think Ni doms are the other way around, anger looks like an uncontrollable demon that takes you over without you being able to control any of it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Fru2 View Post
    I usually brush things off and give myself reasons to not get mad, but when all reason are depleted I ask the person to seriously reconsider going forward with the same attitude and see no respect for my wishes, there comes an ultimatum. I brainstorm all the stuff I'd like to do to the person in my head, be it flaying, cutting their bowels open, pulling their teeth out and other sadistic stuff, and that calms me down, because imagining that happen in my head brings some sort of release, then the conscience comes to the rescue and asks me what kind of man I want to be.
    Eek, scary!

    LOL, it doesn't gross you out to imagine messing around with their body parts?

    Now I'm going to be worried what part of me is on the chopping block if we ever get in an online argument. Here's me curling up in a ball protecting all my parts (not the hair! Nooo, not my hair!).


    Then I can use Te in a more objective way that'd let me display my Fi values in the right manner.

    Then I come to a decision of what action I will take next time I see them and they still disrespect me. Usually they don't see it coming, since every action is well thought out. That's when I'd say I'm in perfect Se mode, everything becomes slower, I feel in perfect control and all hell breaks loose in just the right manner, I never get out of control when it happens, I do what I was set out to do and call mission complete when I've finished.
    Sounds very practical and sensible!
    So this is when Ne-Fi-Te becomes a serious planner?
    That's interesting that you feel you enter a Se state. Hmmm... lots of thought food there.



    I think Ni doms are the other way around, anger looks like an uncontrollable demon that takes you over without you being able to control any of it.
    So I'm the opposite to you... when I get really mad is when I stop planning altogether. For me so far it's always worked out. I guess because my lack of deliberation is coming from a perspective that's normally excessively controlled, so there are habits and such that prevent me from doing anything truly stupid.
    I would say I'm actually in control of my anger... that I harness it... but the decisions are made in the moment whereas I never normally make decisions that way. So to others, and especially those who know me, it seems like I've lost control. Because usually my aim is to push others emotions to redefine boundary lines, rather than getting back at them in punishment. My way comes off as excessive to lots of people though, I wont quit until I get close to my goal (which might entail them begging for mercy, hehe).
    But especially as a 6, anger is one of the few things that makes me feel in control of my environment, and I actually am pretty grateful for it when it shows up... because I don't always get mad when others would, and that leads to making poor decisions like letting people have too much rope. If I wait too long I loose the ability to be mad (perhaps my secondary 9 side? or Ni+Ti detachment? I dunno) and then rationalize away the way I felt until it goes from a roar to a tiny squeak which is weak and useless for any purpose.
    I wonder if other enneatypes of Ni doms feel in control of their anger though? Especially INTJs?


    But nevermind about us... back to you guys. What is your enneatype, Fru? I can't see it on your stats area thingamajig.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sour Roses View Post
    But nevermind about us... back to you guys. What is your enneatype, Fru? I can't see it on your stats area thingamajig.
    I'm probably a 4Sp, but theres also 9, 5, 7 and a 1 in there somewhere
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