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This is a discussion on dealing with bossy ENFJs at work within the ENFP Forum - The Inspirers forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by Llyralen I doubt they are all ENFJs, but ENFJs can definitely be bossy. I think any EJ ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Llyralen View Post
    I doubt they are all ENFJs, but ENFJs can definitely be bossy. I think any EJ type is bossy, pretty much. They get into the “super highway” of decision-making in their brains and sometimes have a difficult time jumping out of it to get more information or feedback and they NEED it... so you have to be assertive, yes, and they know they need people to be assertive, so once it’s in their brain that something is wrong then they SHOULD listen and actually appreciate you more after. If you’re dealing with super unhealthy ones then it’s not pleasant and who knows, but still stand your ground. Everything will be much better if you express yourself and stand your ground.

    Don’t expect them to be aware of what it would be like to be in your place... that’s an ENFP specialty and we ENFPs usually think people should know what it’s like to be the other person (Fi) and most people haven’t got the first clue. Don’t expect any imagination in this way, especially from ESTJs. So you have to tell them you are having problems and also what would be better. If you learn this now, you’ll have about 20 years on me (less grief than I had).

    this is really profound! Great observations!

    My way of dealing with ENFJs is to go toe to toe. When they won't back down, say the thing you know will make them furious and secretly enjoy the blowup that ensues. lol

    ....as you can tell I have no clue how to properly navigate this type, we just fight lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by Fru2 View Post
    It's really mindblowing when you think about it.. I've always expected others to be able to see my pov the way I see theirs. I've felt rather exposed when I've had that mindset, since it feels like each piercing eye is a look into my soul and each remark is taking my perspective in account. Turns out that's not the case, and we're just excellent at seeing different perspectives. I think that with this ability we can let others see what we see and make others more accepting of different views.
    My sentiment exactly. There is a lot about myself that I can identify as my unique perspective and a lot that I can see in others as to how they are different from me. The ability to care deeply about other perspectives, to really process them and incorporate them is something that is so deeply ingrained in me I have a hard time imagining being human without it.

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