I'm sure a variation of this thread has been started before, but I wanted to talk about it from a specific perspective.
I've been doing online dating for about six months now. I'm enjoying the process of meeting new people and dating different types. Ultimately, I'd like to find a relationship, but I'm not rushing the process.
As I go on dates, I'm realizing that I have a tendency to focus on one person at a time. That is to say, if I have a great first or second date with a guy, I stop looking at the apps or making new matches. I focus on developing my connection with that person and seeing what comes of it.
I've been advised to play the field more. That my approach might put too much pressure on one thing to turn out one way or another. And it's not that I think every guy I date will be "the one," but I feel like I want to give that relationship a shot without also comparing to someone else in the mix.
I've also noticed that while I might be focusing on one guy, he's definitely still talking to and dating other women. Especially at the beginning, this seems to be the norm. And so then it becomes a situation where I'm only talking to him and he's talking to multiple women.
I'm not sure if this disconnect in approach is good or bad. I guess I'm looking to see if other people feel like I do and want to focus on one relationship at a time? Or, should I be more open to dating multiple people at once?
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