Hello lovely people!
I've been in a relationship with an ESTP man for a while now; and honestly, it's probably my first healthy (romantic) relationship ever, and it feels nice.
Like any relationship, it definitely has its ups and downs. He pushes me to be more assertive and enjoy the here-and-now, and I push him to look at the big picture and consider his options before diving into something, although I do admire the way that he goes for what he wants without second-guessing it. While things have been going great for the most part, it sometimes feels like we don't speak the same language at all. It struck me this week just how often we would argue over something, only to realize after (a lot of) explaining that we've been saying the same thing but in completely different ways. And while we have a lot of fun together, our conversations turn pretty one-sided, pretty fast: he loves commenting on our surroundings and discussing the nitty-gritty details of tangible things, while I enjoy brainstorming story ideas, discussing dreams and indulging in the possibilities.
I'm curious to hear about other ENFPs who are or have been in a relationship, good or bad, with Si- or Se-doms (so ISxJs or ESxPs). What do/did you enjoy about them? If the relationship is going strong, what are your struggles, and how do you work around them? If the relationship failed, what triggered it, or what made you realize that it would fail?
Looking forward to reading about your experiences! :)