I don't think either way is wrong or right.
I do admit one of the reasons I love my ENFP is her ability to love me for my authenticity and that she values my input and doesn't wish it to change. She was the first person outside of my family to treat me like a human being. I value the authentic approach that ENFPs have. I've never met any other ENFPs outside of her in my environment. It was a very refreshing quality.
I also think ENFPs have a strong sense of value on self-control and don't really like it when other's control them (bending their words). I noticed this behavior also in INFPs. It seems to be even stronger in INFPs. One INFP had an almost meltdown in the INTJ section because we were asking him to clarify his meaning.