I see what you did there. ;-) PM coming up.
@bookjunkie:Wow. Sounds terrible, what you went through! Thank you so much for sharing such a personal thing. It's so great that you and your husband found a way to work it out. I don't know you, but I wish you and your man the best in the world!
Your story sounds very similar to that of a dear friend of mine's. (Had to go and check your profile to make sure you're not the same person --she has a lovely cat just like yours, too!)
This part quite impressed me:That's more or less the kind of reaction that I associate with ENFPs, especially those with a very strong sense of faithfulness/loyalty/fairness. To be completely honest, that's what I imagine I'd feel if I went through the same...The second I was away from him and going home to my husband I felt sick. I've never cried so much, I've never felt so horrible about myself. To me, I had cheated. To others maybe that's not cheating, but in my value system it is. I violated my value system and I was FREAKING OUT. ... It was one of the most painful experiences of my life, knowing I hurt him.
This I found particularly honest, and particularly interesting:What a great reminder for the rest of us out here. Thank you.So now when I think of leaving or "running off" I know that in reality I would NOT be happy. I think that just comes as a result of not focusing on appreciating him and not being grateful for what I have (I do this in all areas of life...its frustrating). I just need to remember how great my life is already.