I have question for my fellow ENFPs:
Where do you stand on the subject of... *lowers voice* infidelity?
I've seen it stated around here that us ENFPs are closer to serial monogamers than outright cheaters. That as Ne-dom Fi-aux, we tend to rely strongly on our value systems, which -at least theoretically- would imply wanting a deep emotional connection with our sexual partners, and a repulsion for the idea of deeply hurting our Significant Others. It all sounds very pretty, and all, but I wonder if one thing is actually linked to the other.
So I think the question is, do you find that to be your case, fellow ENFPs? Or, if you know any ENFPs in real life, or have dated or been married to one, were they of that opinion?
Also, it would be nice if we could discuss the whole cheating topic... So here's an extra few questions if you're in the mood for debating. I am particularly interested in answers from ENFPs, but hey, this is a discussion, so everybody's welcome. :)
- What is infidelity to you?
What do you consider cheating? What are your parameters?
As in, "It's not cheating if I'm not married", or "... if we're not living together", or "...if it's just making out", or "a one-night-stand with no deep emotional attachment", or "...even fantasyzing with someone else is cheating in my book"?
- How much are you or have you been willing to forgive from your partner?
Do you consider infidelity an unforgivable offense? Or would there be extenuating circumstances? How much would you be (or have you been) able to tolerate? Would you continue in a relationship with someone you know has been unfaithful to you?
As in, "I would forgive my partner if they told me immediately and promised never to do it again", or "...if it's a purely sexual thing", or "...I know about it and they wouldn't leave me to be with this other person"?
- If you're comfortable sharing, have you ever cheated on a partner?
Within that line, feel free to elaborate as much or as little as you want, please. ;-)
Any other comments or questions on the subject would, also, be very welcome.
Of course, I'll share my views here, too.