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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    ENFPs don't mind being single?

    A lot of friends I've had throughout life have complained one time or another when they were single about how much they wanted to not be single.

    I, on the hand, have never complained of such things and don't mind being single in the littlest bit. The only time singleness bothered me was when I broke up with ex, but that's expected when you're getting over someone. Now that I'm completely over that (it's been a long time, haha) it hasn't bothered me whatsoever.

    Now, being in a meaningful relationship would be nice. It's an extra, a bonus. It's something I do not actively look for. I haven't engaged in any kind of sexual activity in a long while either. I don't really mind that much, but being human and all I have the occasional craving for nature's best. That I'm also not actively looking for either. But if one had to beat the other I'd be more likely to look for sex.

    As for a romantic relationship, that's something that kind of just.. happens. Nothing I go out searching for or really longing for most of the time. It's something that basically finds you in the most unexpected of times and something I might even heartily jump into had the occasion arose. If it happens it's great and passionate and wonderful and a great feeling. But I'm certainly not miserable without it.

    Are any other ENFP's like this? Being single and not minding at all?
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    I’m exactly the same. Actually, I typically like being single more than being in a relationship… The first few months are always fun but after about 3 months I get SO bored and then just lose interest and then feel resentment towards the person for keeping me tied down. I just feel I’m more “free” when I’m single… More dependent…

    I NEVER look for a relationship. All of the one’s I’ve been in, have just happened (at the most unexpected of time, like you said). But I’ve come to realize that I just get bored WAY too easily and most people (guys) can’t keep up with it. Besides, I’m somewhat selfish and when I’m single, all that I have to worry about is me & I’m perfectly content with that. However, I also think that once I find myself (which I’m on a constant adventure to do so) I think I’ll be able to find out what I want/need and then it will get easier.

    It’s good that you have this mentality on the situation though. There are so many females who HAVE to have a guy or be in a relationship to feel happy… And honestly I feel sorry for those people. It doesn’t sound like fun to me at all. Being truly happy about being single is actually very attractive and shows you have confidence in yourself (which is EXTREMELY attractive).
    Last edited by jamisloan; 02-24-2010 at 10:15 AM.

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    I agree with you fully MissyMaroon! I've been single for quite a stretch now and though there are days that i long for someone who understands and gets me (i guess the ideal relationship). I'm fine with being single and patient for what i want. I've seen far too many people far too unhappy in situations that they need to let go of, but hold on due to being scared of being alone.

    Another thing i've noticed is that i like having a person that i'm interested in. A crush / infatuation. Again not that i'm interested in starting anything with said person, it's just..... enjoyable in a way.

    In my mind i've always felt that everything will come together perfectly once i've balanced myself out and gotten myself to a place where i feel i should be education\career\financially and spiritually. I know that seems like a tall order and in fact i really believe that if Ms. Right came along, and i had a strong knowing that she was in line with who i am, where i'm going, what i'm about and vice versa. Then i wouldn't hold back at all.

    For now though, i'm good. Enjoying the single life and not worried about being alone, there are always friends and family around.

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Eh, I don't mind being single as long as I have plenty of friends and a good social life with the occasional random hookup. But that's a dream ideal and I end up getting lonely. I do better in a relationship.

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    I love being in a relationship, but if I'm single, then so be it. As you've said, I don't actively look for relationships, but if the opportunity presents itself, then I seize it.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Quote Originally Posted by Tophat182 View Post
    Eh, I don't mind being single as long as I have plenty of friends and a good social life with the occasional random hookup. But that's a dream ideal and I end up getting lonely. I do better in a relationship.
    I feel the same as you but i always dreamt of myself getting marrying. So being lonely is not my ideal but if i have friends or something to replace a relationship i should be ok. But i will say the idea of not having lips touching mines, fingers intertwining with mines and glazing eyes looking back at me makes me feel sad, lonely and hungry for relationship. You won't get that with friends or random hookups or hobbies. Sometimes only a relationship can scratch that itch for deep human connection.
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    ISFJ - The Nurturers

    This actually matches up pretty well with ENFPs I've known. o: My friend doesn't ever seem to be looking for people (though people are constantly crushing on her) and the one time she's had a relationship that I've seen she got bored after about a month and decided her boyfriend was tying her down.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Yes, there's the occasional crush in the midst of our singleness, or some kind of an interest. But unlike other people, I'm not miserable not being in a relationship with this 'interest'. Although, right now I don't really have one, haha.

    The bottom line: It doesn't kill me to be single. Sometimes I like it!

    Also, another thing: When I'm single, I'm really clear headed and not so easily distracted by the thought of my boyfriend.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Quote Originally Posted by Love Obsessed View Post
    I feel the same as you but i always dreamt of myself getting marrying. So being lonely is not my ideal but if i have friends or something to replace a relationship i should be ok. But i will say the idea of not having lips touching mines, fingers intertwining with mines and glazing eyes looking back at me makes me feel sad, lonely and hungry for relationship. You won't get that with friends or random hookups or hobbies. Sometimes only a relationship can scratch that itch for deep human connection.
    I have deep human connection with one friend actually. It doesn't have to be a full blown relationship, but I suppose people are different regardless of sharing the same type.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers


    Eh, I don't think I should be in a relationship until I'm more stable emotionally. I feel the exact same way in and out of relationships. So I guess no, I don't mind being single.


     
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