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    INTJ - The Scientists

    How do we find, attract, and keep one of you guys?

    I've heard that you guys have trouble in STAYING interested in someone, and that your niceness can often be misinterpreted for "interest". How do we find, attract, (know that you actually like us and aren't just being nice), and keep one of you guys?
    (Particularly males).
    Sincerely,
    INTJs (particularly females)
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    A better question would be "why would you want to be with an ENFP male?" Yes, we're fun, charming perhaps, and we seek to have that deep emotional connection with our SO, but we don't really fit the description of a "provider" very well. And that's what women actually want, right?

    But I digress...Well, I've never met a INTJ girl in real life, however, I've seen some INTJ videos on youtube and...all those INTJ girls going on about how they love to be alone, how they hate "e-x-t-r-o-v-e-r-t-s", and taking pride in their "quality work"...I found it quite adorable :) You INTJ girls seem to have something very endearing about you :) I don't know about other ENFP guys but I would say: Just have fun with us, let us introduce you to our adventures, show us how awesomely smart you are, be a little cheeky, be yourself :) And don't worry about us staying. Any ENFP man who wants to mature as a person needs to learn to commit and love someone devotedly at some point of his life. It's one of many challenges we face. Fortunately, you're usually interesting enough to make it easier for us :)

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    Unknown Personality

    Quote Originally Posted by anonimouze123 View Post
    I've heard that you guys have trouble in STAYING interested in someone, and that your niceness can often be misinterpreted for "interest". How do we find, attract, (know that you actually like us and aren't just being nice), and keep one of you guys?
    It's not really an issue of me staying interested in someone, it's more a matter of them being willing and able to keep up with me or at least try. I'll do anything to keep life fun and avoid boredom, I'll come up with crazy plans, try new things even go on little adventures, I just need someone who'll embrace this and even join in and encourage me :), hopefully it'll be part of the reason you'd have been attracted to me in the first place. Of course, it's not all just fun and game, you do get an incredibly caring (and modest) partner in return who'll be willing to do pretty much anything to keep you happy.
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    INTP - The Thinkers

    Whenever I want to know if someone is interested in me, I ask. Or just shameless flirt.

    What's the downside of asking? Facing rejection?
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    https://personalitycafe.com/nfs-tempe...look-girl.html
    this is an nf thread link so you can at least know how to pick up an NF
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    INTJ - The Scientists

    Quote Originally Posted by Efraim View Post
    A better question would be "why would you want to be with an ENFP male?" Yes, we're fun, charming perhaps, and we seek to have that deep emotional connection with our SO, but we don't really fit the description of a "provider" very well. And that's what women actually want, right?

    But I digress...Well, I've never met a INTJ girl in real life, however, I've seen some INTJ videos on youtube and...all those INTJ girls going on about how they love to be alone, how they hate "e-x-t-r-o-v-e-r-t-s", and taking pride in their "quality work"...I found it quite adorable :) You INTJ girls seem to have something very endearing about you :) I don't know about other ENFP guys but I would say: Just have fun with us, let us introduce you to our adventures, show us how awesomely smart you are, be a little cheeky, be yourself :) And don't worry about us staying. Any ENFP man who wants to mature as a person needs to learn to commit and love someone devotedly at some point of his life. It's one of many challenges we face. Fortunately, you're usually interesting enough to make it easier for us :)
    I personally don't mind extroverts. I think that a lasting relationship should have at least one extrovert, because two introverts would just stay cooped up in their own little worlds all the time.
    From a scientific perspective, ENFPs are our "ideal matches" due to the way our cognitive functions are set up. Ni and Ne are a good combination because Ne has all sorts of creative ideas and Ni can take the good ones and implement them. Then Fi; Fe just clashes with our Te (and they act like they "know" everyone when our Ni is usually more reliable), and I love Fi :3. The main thing is that our two middle functions (Fi and Te) are the same, but switched, which makes us different enough to make up for the other's weaknesses, but similar enough to be able to communicate easily and really understand each other.
    From my own personal perspective, I love how you guys seem like your average popular person on the surface, but you are actually really deep and care a lot about the big questions. A lot of the time you sense that you are different from all your friends, that they don't really understand you, which is awesome because we feel the same way minus the friends :). You guys don't just accept things as good/ true just because someone told you (like SJs, no offense), and that's perfect for us because, regardless of what we're doing, we're always asking "why?". We are searching for the truth about life, like you guys. Plus you guys are loyal (once you decide to be ;) ) , have emotions without being irrational or being all "holier-than-thou", and don't mind listening to us babble on about us theories :). But mostly the "deep" thing. Of course, I'm not assuming that every ENFP is exactly like this; no type is perfect, but I still want to find one.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers


    Wear something shiny, and you'll catch my interest.

    Be someone shiny, and you'll have caught me.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Quote Originally Posted by anonimouze123 View Post
    A lot of the time you sense that you are different from all your friends, that they don't really understand you, which is awesome because we feel the same way minus the friends :).
    Hahaha this is funny, makes me feel understood and a bit sad.

    I don't know about the question, i have no preset rules or requirments, everytime i believe it's going to last, i believe i can make adjustments and make everything work, which roots from my willingness to adapt to nearly everything and satisfaction with almost anything, which doesn't do me good.

    I was just with my friends last night and i was telling them how i'd make a good wife material. It sucks, and what sucks more is that i'm caution-less, i throw my heart like it's not even mine, or like i'm stronger than all this.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    How to find me? - Happen to be where I am at any given point of time. How to attract me? - At least appear friendly, or if I am talking about something to someone and you are nearby or part of the conversation, say something, even if I don't know you the extrovert in me is really excited to add another person into the dialogue and I will jump at the opportunity to talk to you more. How to keep me? - I will trade loyalty for loyalty. I hate feeling like I have to worry about the relationship, I like being able to talk to you whenever about anything. I hate when my partner scorns or chastises the way I get excited about things; but if you keep an open mind and remember that we ENFP's are excited about new things and ideas then everything will be fine. Trust me my weird tendency to go from one thing to another in a heartbeat will not apply to the partner I have given my trust and loyalty to.
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    Quote Originally Posted by anonimouze123 View Post
    I've heard that you guys have trouble in STAYING interested in someone, and that your niceness can often be misinterpreted for "interest". How do we find, attract, (know that you actually like us and aren't just being nice), and keep one of you guys?
    (Particularly males).
    Sincerely,
    INTJs (particularly females)
    I can't really say how to catch me, I'm unsure of that myself. But I think it's a partial myth that we're so hard to keep. I think the ENFPs that are loyal and dedicated, are fiercely so once 'caught'. Just keep your eyes out for that kind.
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