On the Perceived Loneliness of Adults.
Hello PerCaf people!
A thought occurred to me today. I've graduated from high school so I've been doing networking and the like recently, but there seems to be something different to the social life of adults than to children/teenagers.
I've always really liked meeting people - it doesn't matter who they are or where they're from as long as they're good hearted and not smelly. When I was at school making friends was easy. I'd just have a chat with someone in the bathroom or something and it'd be smooth sailing from there.
It isn't like that with networking. My idea of it is that everyone wants something from you, they size you up for how you can benefit them, or only do you favours if they have something to gain.
Does it have to be that cold cut? :/ I mean, I understand the practicality of looking for someone who can give you what you want, but at the same time I find something scary about being viewed as a mere resource for someone to get what they want. I mean, a little touch of humanity por favor?
Is that why adults seem to be so lonely? Because their form of socializing has turned from genuine interest to a cold trader's market where meeting people equates with getting a job done? I mean, I've read countless books and stories and watched movies about an adult's loneliness, and how they are surrounded by friends who aren't real or who bail out when the going gets tough for said lonely protagonist (W, Crash, Mad Men, American Beauty). In the end it seems as if the only people you can rely on is your parents, your romantic partner and your kids, but even some of these are ruled out.
Gosh, I rambled, but what do you think, my fellow ENFPs?