[ENFP] Why Don't People Love Me? (Not as Pathetic as it Sounds)

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This is a discussion on Why Don't People Love Me? (Not as Pathetic as it Sounds) within the ENFP Forum - The Inspirers forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; On the Perceived Loneliness of Adults. Hello PerCaf people! A thought occurred to me today. I've graduated from high school ...

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Why Don't People Love Me? (Not as Pathetic as it Sounds)

    On the Perceived Loneliness of Adults.

    Hello PerCaf people!

    A thought occurred to me today. I've graduated from high school so I've been doing networking and the like recently, but there seems to be something different to the social life of adults than to children/teenagers.

    I've always really liked meeting people - it doesn't matter who they are or where they're from as long as they're good hearted and not smelly. When I was at school making friends was easy. I'd just have a chat with someone in the bathroom or something and it'd be smooth sailing from there.

    It isn't like that with networking. My idea of it is that everyone wants something from you, they size you up for how you can benefit them, or only do you favours if they have something to gain.

    Does it have to be that cold cut? :/ I mean, I understand the practicality of looking for someone who can give you what you want, but at the same time I find something scary about being viewed as a mere resource for someone to get what they want. I mean, a little touch of humanity por favor?

    Is that why adults seem to be so lonely? Because their form of socializing has turned from genuine interest to a cold trader's market where meeting people equates with getting a job done? I mean, I've read countless books and stories and watched movies about an adult's loneliness, and how they are surrounded by friends who aren't real or who bail out when the going gets tough for said lonely protagonist (W, Crash, Mad Men, American Beauty). In the end it seems as if the only people you can rely on is your parents, your romantic partner and your kids, but even some of these are ruled out.

    Gosh, I rambled, but what do you think, my fellow ENFPs?



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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    I listened to a Joe Rogan Experience podcast that brought up this subject. Joe Rogan explain that he saw it like most adults wants their friends to be separated from the private. My dad hangs out with some guys when watching hockey but that's the only time they hang out, none of them call and say "hey, wanna come for dinner at my house". So maybe its that most people want to separate the professional from the private, because people got enough problems at home with kids and wife/husband etc etc

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    I don't want to grow up :Your post is part of the reason!

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    That's really true. It seems like the older you get, the more private you are about your life and letting someone in, when it really should be that everyone is open to new people. Connecting to people on a genuine level is just about one of the best things that could make you happy.

    I don't really know why it's like that. Has it always been that way?

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    INFP - The Idealists

    This is where we really show off by being one of the few people who actually stay open to more and more close personal friendships :D I'm only 19 myself but I've already noticed this kind of closed off attitude with people older than me, I'm hoping to change that :p
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