I really like the theory that there are 5 love languages which are the ways in which people show their love to others.
What do you think yours is?
The idea is that there are 5 love languages; the way in which we show people that we care for them, friends, partners etc.
1) Touch- physical affection- snuggles and hugs and cuddles.
2) Acts of service- doing something nice for someone- washing their car, making breakfast in bed, helping decorate their house.
3) Quality time- Prioritising spending time together- Watching a film, going for a walk…
4) Words of encouragement- Saying nice things- Compliments, letters, cards.
5) Gifts- Buying appropriate and thoughtful things.
If the way in which we show love is different from the way another person shows love then a conflict can occur. We think we are demonstrating how we feel but they may not recognise this as it is in a different language. For example, for a gifts person who spends hours buying things or creating crafts they are showing their love for someone but the choice of presents inside should reflect their love language. For example; if they are a quality time person then putting together a basket for a movie night in together would appeal, for a words of encouragement person writing a poem or a letter saying how much you care would be well received.
Understanding this could help in friendships or other relationships to give or do things which the other person appreciates rather than what you would like to get or do.