[ENFP] What is your love language?

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    What is your love language?

    I really like the theory that there are 5 love languages which are the ways in which people show their love to others.

    What do you think yours is?

    The idea is that there are 5 love languages; the way in which we show people that we care for them, friends, partners etc.

    1) Touch- physical affection- snuggles and hugs and cuddles.


    2) Acts of service- doing something nice for someone- washing their car, making breakfast in bed, helping decorate their house.


    3) Quality time-
    Prioritising spending time together- Watching a film, going for a walk…

    4) Words of encouragement- Saying nice things- Compliments, letters, cards.


    5) Gifts- Buying appropriate and thoughtful things.

    If the way in which we show love is different from the way another person shows love then a conflict can occur. We think we are demonstrating how we feel but they may not
    recognise this as it is in a different language. For example, for a gifts person who spends hours buying things or creating crafts they are showing their love for someone but the choice of presents inside should reflect their love language. For example; if they are a quality time person then putting together a basket for a movie night in together would appeal, for a words of encouragement person writing a poem or a letter saying how much you care would be well received.

    Understanding this could help in friendships or other relationships to give or do things which the other person appreciates rather than what you would like to get or do.


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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    There was an online test for this posted somewhere else on the board a couple months ago. I'm not finding it in my list of subscribed threads though....

    Me? I'm all about the quality time.

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    INFJ

    A little bit of 1, but mostly 4...I love saying good and encouraging words to people I love! I love making them feel good with my words :)
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    When I'm in a relationship I do all five and want all five. I'm a bit of a romantic and exploit any path to making the person I'm with feel special. One of these days I may find someone who does the same for me.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers


    I like 2 , but Touch is the most important to me. I only frequently touch those I feel truly comfortable around. Hugging a friend is whatever, but embracing someone in the moment is extremely intimate for me. I can be very meticulous about who I touch, and who I let touch me (lol, that sounds so arrogant). I WILL scoot over if you're sitting too close.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    touch is the most important, as far as how i roll, but I need the other person to give me words of encouragement, I like to give more than recieve when it coumes to touching. I try to keep gifting to a minimum cause I'm very unmaterialistic.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    I would do 1-4.

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    I think the gifts thing comes out as seeming materialistic but I don't think so.
    I am a gifts person and it is more about something sweet and relevant than expensive, e.g. today I bought a pack of buttons in the shape of crayons for my housemate, she loves buttons. It could just as easily have been a postcard from a charity shop or a flower from our garden. It needs to be thoughtful and personal and I like to do craft things for people e.g. making cards, shadow boxes, sock monkeys... I don't think I am shallow and materialistic and I think I prefer to receive quality time but gifts is almost certainly how I show love
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    INTP - The Thinkers

    Quote Originally Posted by Doubletstep View Post
    I like 2 , but Touch is the most important to me. I only frequently touch those I feel truly comfortable around. Hugging a friend is whatever, but embracing someone in the moment is extremely intimate for me. I can be very meticulous about who I touch, and who I let touch me (lol, that sounds so arrogant). I WILL scoot over if you're sitting too close.
    Same with me about the touch. :)

    I like and try to show all five, but one and four are the biggest for me.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Agreed. Gifts can be so many things. Sure, they can be that necklace in the store window you know your SO is dying for, but it could also be something as simple as windshield wiper fluid. It's simply to note that you're paying attention.
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