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This is a discussion on ISFP needs your help! ^_^ within the ENFP Forum - The Inspirers forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Hey guys! I need advice about a certain ENFP I have special feelings for! Would ya mind lending an eye ...

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    ISFP - The Artists

    ISFP needs your help! ^_^

    Hey guys!

    I need advice about a certain ENFP I have special feelings for! Would ya mind lending an eye (or two) and help me figure out this boy?!

    Sooooo. It all started a month or so ago when I went on a long awaited date with the ENFP in question. We spent a month planning get-togethers after that date, which ended up never happening for whatever reason. I understand the last three months have been rough for him. He broke up with a serious girlfriend not too long ago so I've respected his space. Then last week, seemingly out of nowhere, he asks if I want to get together with him. Obviously I said yes. =P The whole day was extremely romantic -- very child-like & simplistic -- and I can't stop replaying the date in my head. Gah.

    Anyway, the problem lies in his intentions. Since he's only been single for three months now, I'm afraid of being that girl who becomes emotionally attached only to find out he's still harbouring feelings for his ex and I'm a temporary fill-in for her, or some other girl he likes but can't get. Should I ask him straight up what sort of relationship he wants to pursue with me? How do ENFPs generally treat people they're attracted to? (e.g. do you go out of your way to see them?)

    Also, opening up to him is difficult. There's an intense uneasiness I feel when I'm with him, I can't pin-point where it's coming from ... hmm, could be because I like him a whole lot. :P So, I've another question ... do shy & quiet people quickly bore you?

    Questions, questions...

    Thanks for reading! All insights are appreciated. ^___^
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Hii we ENFP very understanding each other with ISFP:)-I am sorry if I talk stupidity-becouse we have 4:00 AM now and I am sleepy:P.

    Yeee that's so great that you are dating with enfp- sometimes we have depressed days but you shoudn't worry about that-it's normal -We have sometimes mundane intentions but we need a lot of tender. I think that ENFP boy should answer to you:P becouse they can have different attidute.
    But I think that is possible that he still harbouring feelings for his ex, becouse when we really love sb we can be constatn in feelings.
    Sometimes I was interested in a few boys at the same time-but then I always stay alone (as a punishmend)-but i never cheated nobody-becouse when I am not honest with others I feel terribly-actually I even can't be no honest-so if he told you that he is interested in You it must be true!

    But you always can ask him-we appreciate honest and don't like when somebody don't tell us what is worring you -
    so He should too tell you the true!

    We try to be nice for everyone-not becouse of they like us-but we really like others and we are truthfully in our feelings,
    Ha and when someone in past hurts us opening is really difficult-becouse we would like to trust to people but don't want to suffering again.

    You are probably more open than we are-but we have a lot in common.

    My friend is ISFP and I tell him everything & trust becouse i know him very well!

    And last answer:D-quiet and shy- I didn't liked when my ex ( ES**) was quiet-becouse then I didn't know what he was thinking? I was worried when I didn't know that..
    And about bore-I think not ,becouse we try to solve shy and quiet person-unless it last too long.
    I know that my post is stupidly writing but I am really sleepy OoooAaaaa!!!

    We like dating with people with big sense of humore and spontaneous but complement one another is really interesting too:-)!! I am girl so maybe my opinion woudn't help you-here shoud express one's opinion some ENFP's man But if i can say sth else-I woud tell that I really don't have given type-If i'v just got a feelin when I meet sb interesting-And I don't dating with someone who isn't interesting to me.

    I keep one's fingers crossed for your relationship:)!!

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Be as shy as you can be while still keeping his attention. Let only a little of yourself out at a time.

    Problem is, if this last relationship of his was very serious and lasted any amount of time, he's not ready to really date after three months. More likely he's forcing himself out for numerous reasons. This isn't always the case, but it's common. He may have fully convinced himself that he does want a relationship with you. Just be careful.

    I would recommend keeping as much of your heart separate as possible while still seeing where it goes. I would caution against jumping into bed with him any time soon. Finally, little sweet things will keep his attention far more than large things. Save those for when you're sure of his heart.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    I agree w/ the other replies to just be careful, but also enjoy having fun. I absolutely <3 ISFPs! I find we hit it off very easily and are comfy around each other. I wouldn't worry about boring him at all. We like the quiet mysterious types (ISFP, ISTP, INFP, etc....) because they keep us wondering.

    If it is really bothering you, I think it'd be fine to bring it up though. If he is trying to play you, he might get mad that you're asking, but that's his problem. Otherwise, he'll fess up about his intentions, and perhaps admit he isn't over and ex, or maybe he is. But since you have a weird feeling, something is going on that you should know about, otherwise you know you wouldn't even need to wonder about it. So follow your gut!

    That said, whether it works out w/ this guy or not, it is a pretty fun match, even for friends. I dated an ISFP for a while and had a great time, even though it didn't work out for other reasons.

    Good luck! :) Let us know what happens!
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Quote Originally Posted by Musikaman View Post

    Problem is, if this last relationship of his was very serious and lasted any amount of time, he's not ready to really date after three months. More likely he's forcing himself out for numerous reasons. This isn't always the case, but it's common. He may have fully convinced himself that he does want a relationship with you. Just be careful.
    I have to disagree with Musikaman on that. 3 months is a pretty long time. I'm usually over it after about 2 weeks, but maybe that's just me? ENFPs are good at coping with losses like that.
    I wouldn't really worry about being a rebound. A mature ENFP wouldn't use someone that way, it just wouldn't feel right.
    Now, if he has rescheduled on you many times then I would say that is a bad sign. If we like someone we make it a point to see that person every chance we get. Don't drive him away by chasing after him. The worst possible thing you can do is to act clingy. If you want to raise his interest, stay cool. If he likes you He Will Call You.
    Don't worry about shyness. I'm very attracted to introverts, as are a lot of ENFPs. As some people mentioned it might even be a plus. Mystery compels us to look deeper, and keeps our interest peaked.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Crystall you just remind me some situation from my past-i was fall in love so much in one boy-and I make first step and that thing that he was cool and aloof was attract me
    -Everyone was warning me that he is difficult person- but it was challenge for me I like challenge.
    Earlier we was mates.
    -But later we made an appointment for a date..
    And I was waiting to late night and he wasn't appeared..
    He was in the disco and having great fun with some chick. It was such a hurt thing.
    After that night I try to talk with him but there was no way-he avoid me.
    I never don't want to give up -but I don't want too go there where sb don't want me-So i forget this.

    A few years later I told him about that I loved him And that I want finish with past and forgive him-and he was very schocked-ask me out to beer-And regret this-but it was too late-Heh I didn't have grudge against him, becouse i haven't reason
    OOOoo I shoudn't talk about me becouse topic is for Bronwen xD-I head towards You shoudn't too much delude him or sth becouse It could be hurt-Just be like you really are-It's the best way-Tell him what gnaw you and maybe don't be too direct but just talk with him;-)!

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Quote Originally Posted by Crystall View Post
    I have to disagree with Musikaman on that. 3 months is a pretty long time. I'm usually over it after about 2 weeks, but maybe that's just me? ENFPs are good at coping with losses like that.
    It depends on the relationship. Three months, for me, means I'm starting to smile more often than not again.

    I wouldn't really worry about being a rebound. A mature ENFP wouldn't use someone that way, it just wouldn't feel right.
    I fully agree, however, the time it takes to realize things don't click can sometimes be damaging. I found this out a bit ago with a girl I dated for a bit over a month. I was just seeing where things were going while she was falling in love. I hated breaking up with her.
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    ISFP - The Artists

    Hey guys, your advice was is much appreciated! (: I messaged him on facebook yesterday asking if we were still on for dinner, but he never responded so I've decided to keep my distance from him for awhile, see how that goes ... !
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