I need advice about a certain ENFP I have special feelings for! Would ya mind lending an eye (or two) and help me figure out this boy?!
Sooooo. It all started a month or so ago when I went on a long awaited date with the ENFP in question. We spent a month planning get-togethers after that date, which ended up never happening for whatever reason. I understand the last three months have been rough for him. He broke up with a serious girlfriend not too long ago so I've respected his space. Then last week, seemingly out of nowhere, he asks if I want to get together with him. Obviously I said yes. =P The whole day was extremely romantic -- very child-like & simplistic -- and I can't stop replaying the date in my head. Gah.
Anyway, the problem lies in his intentions. Since he's only been single for three months now, I'm afraid of being that girl who becomes emotionally attached only to find out he's still harbouring feelings for his ex and I'm a temporary fill-in for her, or some other girl he likes but can't get. Should I ask him straight up what sort of relationship he wants to pursue with me? How do ENFPs generally treat people they're attracted to? (e.g. do you go out of your way to see them?)
Also, opening up to him is difficult. There's an intense uneasiness I feel when I'm with him, I can't pin-point where it's coming from ... hmm, could be because I like him a whole lot. :P So, I've another question ... do shy & quiet people quickly bore you?
Thanks for reading! All insights are appreciated. ^___^