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This is a discussion on Does stepping out of your comfort zone make you more balanced? within the ENFP Forum - The Inspirers forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; I just took the mbti test again and I got ENFP as always. But I didn't really pay attention to ...

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Does stepping out of your comfort zone make you more balanced?

    I just took the mbti test again and I got ENFP as always. But I didn't really pay attention to the percentages before, and I realized now that it seems like I'm a bit of both sides of each parameter (except for F which was 62 % over T :P).

    So I'm E over I with only 11 %, N over S with 38 %, and P over J with 44 %.

    Before I started studying I'm sure I was a pretty extreme ENFP, except for never really being very extroverted. Is it possible that studying natural sciences has 'balanced' me to be a little of both sides of the scale? And is it possible that I'll tip over completely? Gaaah if I find myself being more S than N I'll don't know what to do with myself!! ><
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    I believe you can balance, but I don't think you can completely tip over. I'm only 5% E over I, and 33% F over T. my N and P are both above 50% though lol. But it's interesting, because I can sometimes act a little like an INTP, ENTP, or INFP because of the balance.
    Last edited by AdroElectro; 12-04-2014 at 05:33 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AdroElectro View Post
    I believe you can balance, but I don't think you can completely tip over. I'm only 5% E over I, and 33% F over T. my N and P are both above 50% though lol. But it's interesting, because I can sometimes act a little like an INTP, ENTP, or ENFP because of the balance.
    Lately I've actually started thinking that I might be an introvert after all, and due 5 years at university I can and have to use S a LOT. But good to hear that you don't believe in tipping over completely :P. I do feel that I relate to many of the ENFPs properties, and I feel proud of who I am, but as always; where there's categories there's stereotypes, and I don't always relate to the ENFP one.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Siriit View Post
    I just took the mbti test again and I got ENFP as always. But I didn't really pay attention to the percentages before, and I realized now that it seems like I'm a bit of both sides of each parameter (except for F which was 62 % over T :P).

    So I'm E over I with only 11 %, N over S with 38 %, and P over J with 44 %.

    Before I started studying I'm sure I was a pretty extreme ENFP, except for never really being very extroverted. Is it possible that studying natural sciences has 'balanced' me to be a little of both sides of the scale? And is it possible that I'll tip over completely? Gaaah if I find myself being more S than N I'll don't know what to do with myself!! ><
    The first time I took the Myers Briggs test, I came out as an enfj...with 1% J over P! Because of being out of my comfort zone, living in a leadership position with an all girls residential program for girls with life controlling issues, I had to be super J. I had to live by practically the same schedule every day, order people around and punish them like an army general in complete absolutes, no flexibility. Living under these conditions caused me to SUPER develop my J, even though I naturally tend towards P, always, and thrive on that, more, actually.
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    I've taken that test countless times through out my life on multiple sites, one was given to me by the university. I'm always an ENFP. Though as I've grown older and gone through some life paths I've noticed my J has been slowly increasing. I'm 60%P and 40% J now. One time I took it I was 55%P and 45%J. Sometimes I feel I have complete clarity with my projects and then sometimes I feel like I procrastinate. I still loose shit left and right. If I don't keep my phone charged at night I'll never find it. I did that by forcing myself to use my phone as an alarm clock. I thought how do I remember to plug this in? Fear of loosing an amazing job. I took out my push button alarm clock and now only use my phone to wake me up. It forces me to plug the damn thing in. HA take that brain.

    @Siriit I sometimes feel like an introvert too. Though as I understand it one of the strongest things is how we think. ENFP's dominate will always be our Ne. The what if is strong with in. LOL. Then are Fi comes next within are dream like state of Ne we can sense what is true and false in our world. I think it gives me the ability to have two things the hear and now, then the ability to see every outcome down the road. Because I like to always think on the bright side I normally pick the most optimal outcome and plan for it. Though I'm still very aware of the other side. Anyways even though I may act like an introvert sometimes the most important part is the understanding of what jung meant by an Extrovert. It's an outward flowing of energy, in interest in people and things (does not state we have to converse with them), and most importantly a dependence on them. Since my husband left me I'm trying not to depend on a person but try to understand what it feels like being alone. It sucks. lol I'm much happier when in a small group (not a party) but at least one person I know and trust around me.
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    Stepping out of my comfort zone is my comfort zone. When I was in university and a good student, practicing piano all the time for exams and recitals I would have got ISTJ. ISFJ, maybe. But six hours of disciplined practicing always translated to four hours of causing hell. After I was through with school I had to tone it down, financial and family requirements and I hated and still hate every moment of it. Playing it safe is habit forming, AND my leading cause of depression and poor self esteem. And it leaves me feeling trapped inside myself, not wanting to talk to anyone and feeling like there is no tomorrow. Or worse, a tomorrow will never come even though I'm counting off the days.

    When I'm relaxed and feeling my absolute best I'm closer to who I am and test as my true type, around 60% E, 100% N, flip-flop around T/F and 100% P. I was talking to some SJ/NJs last night in a formal setting. We get along great BUT certain environments really bring out our differences. I should be out there looking past whatever anxieties and phobias I developed and causing trouble.

    ... yeah, creating the wrong kind of comfort zone destroys me. (I'm not a healthy ENFP, and please I'm not a role model)

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    Quote Originally Posted by NIHM View Post

    @Siriit I sometimes feel like an introvert too. Though as I understand it one of the strongest things is how we think. ENFP's dominate will always be our Ne. The what if is strong with in. LOL. Then are Fi comes next within are dream like state of Ne we can sense what is true and false in our world. I think it gives me the ability to have two things the hear and now, then the ability to see every outcome down the road. Because I like to always think on the bright side I normally pick the most optimal outcome and plan for it. Though I'm still very aware of the other side. Anyways even though I may act like an introvert sometimes the most important part is the understanding of what jung meant by an Extrovert. It's an outward flowing of energy, in interest in people and things (does not state we have to converse with them), and most importantly a dependence on them. Since my husband left me I'm trying not to depend on a person but try to understand what it feels like being alone. It sucks. lol I'm much happier when in a small group (not a party) but at least one person I know and trust around me.
    Thank you for your respons, this made me feel a lot better! Gawd, I LOVE this forum! Everyone here is so nice and friendly and smart!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Spastic Origami View Post
    Stepping out of my comfort zone is my comfort zone. When I was in university and a good student, practicing piano all the time for exams and recitals I would have got ISTJ. ISFJ, maybe. But six hours of disciplined practicing always translated to four hours of causing hell. After I was through with school I had to tone it down, financial and family requirements and I hated and still hate every moment of it. Playing it safe is habit forming, AND my leading cause of depression and poor self esteem. And it leaves me feeling trapped inside myself, not wanting to talk to anyone and feeling like there is no tomorrow. Or worse, a tomorrow will never come even though I'm counting off the days.

    When I'm relaxed and feeling my absolute best I'm closer to who I am and test as my true type, around 60% E, 100% N, flip-flop around T/F and 100% P. I was talking to some SJ/NJs last night in a formal setting. We get along great BUT certain environments really bring out our differences. I should be out there looking past whatever anxieties and phobias I developed and causing trouble.

    ... yeah, creating the wrong kind of comfort zone destroys me. (I'm not a healthy ENFP, and please I'm not a role model)
    I'm sorry to hear that. I find this particular uni absolutely smothering, but I have outlets in music and in writing, otherwise I would lose my mind! But what do you do now? Sounds like they put you in a box office in a grey office building somewhere in a dystopic landscape. Can't you escape and cause hell somewhere?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Siriit View Post
    I'm sorry to hear that. I find this particular uni absolutely smothering, but I have outlets in music and in writing, otherwise I would lose my mind! But what do you do now? Sounds like they put you in a box office in a grey office building somewhere in a dystopic landscape. Can't you escape and cause hell somewhere?
    ... teach piano. I didn't graduate university. I was a little bit of a trouble maker and left with the polite assistance of the campus police and a trespassing order that I would not breech campus propriety for an entire year. I never did find out the specifics and the one friend who knows everything refuses to tell me. Going to school was a mistake and trying to re-audition was another. After, everything was about money, trying to salvage whatever relationship and looking back I should have just walked away and let everything burn. And laugh. At the time I thought there was something valuable worth saving. I wanted to leave after the first week of school but stuck it out as much as I could because I argued with my family about studying music and not computer science, engineering and things I found terribly boring. Just not a healthy place for me to be. There was a time when I absolutely hated playing: but now I don't know, I will sit down occasionally and play through some things but it's something personal and I am not willing to enter that world again. Maybe if it were different people. Office building would be heaven.

    But yeah, I've been toying with journalism. And this SJ/NJ feast of formal boring was a social gathering where the editor asked me to come out for the purpose of asking difficult questions. It's a local community paper and I was asked to tactfully troll the event. Or ask a difficult question of two. Only thing I ask for is a chance to start over, have money to support myself, meet some cool people and start dating again and not feel judged because of an unhealthy past. Seems like nothing much, ambition wise, but it means everything. I'm done with the entire philosophy of success under all costs that I've been spoon-fed all through my teens and twenties.

    I think we are meant to take risks. Especially when they are for things that are meaningful. Playing it safe is a necessity sometimes, family and finances override many things. And when you're feeling defeated and crushed and without any moral support playing it safe is the only thing we can do and it becomes a self perpetuating cycle. Maybe I took too big of risk where I gambled everything. At the same time experimentation, trying and learning new things, meeting great people is what keeps me going.

    Funny thing is, I would probably do it all over again. Except by different means. Promise me one thing. Keep the music and the writing and don't let anyone destroy it for you.

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    Gaaah I feel for you!! I think we've had a similair experience, but in my case university actually both saved me, broke me and then saved me again. I study vet med i the Czech Republic. I tried to stay positive at first, focusing on the nice things, but it's an absolute repugnant country. I'm sorry if I offend anyone here, but as a forigner I get treated worst than dirt. The uni broke me completely after my second year. I couldn't hold a proper conversation because I kept forgetting what we were talking about... I lost myself, lost my music, my creative thoughts, my soul and my spirit. But after the bullying, which went on for over ten years during the time that I grew up, I could only look at one direction, and that is forward. I knew that there's nothing for me outside of the uni. No future, no happiness, no chance at success. I managed to pick myself back together during a 3 month long summer break, and I went back, angry, scarred and focused. They won't break me, I will do this my way and I will laugh and never look back when I finish here, knowing that I finally met my goal and that my life as a vet can finally start.
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