okay so, me and my boyfriend have been together for like... ten and a half months now. for the past ten and a half months, we've spent practically every day together, doing lots of social things with friends, basically being out all the time. which is awesome for me, because i need to be out or else i'll go insane crazy. (i'm the ENxP in this relationship. probably.)
anyway, i've always known my boyfriend is a bit more on the introverted side, but he never really seemed to mind being out all the time. lately, though, he's been more stressed out and needing more down time, which is fine because i perfectly understand and am willing to give him his space. he needs to help take care of his dad who just got out of the hospital anyway, and of course i'm not about to impede on his family obligations.
so here's the situation. my friends are his friends and his friends are my friends. we share everything, literally, and we're starting to realize that it's kind of unhealthy. people in relationships need space, of course, need their own things to do and to talk about and their own people to talk to or else the relationship runs the risk of going stale. we want to work and being as healthy about our relationship as possible, and that's fine. for him, that means going home more, having his alone time to do his own stuff like playing video games and whatever. the problem here is for me.
on the one hand, i love our friends and i hang out with them without my boyfriend all the time. but almost all of our friends are guys, which doesn't really bother him but at the same time i can tell he probably wishes it was a little bit different. at this point i'm becoming closer to our best friend than he is, and he's known him his entire life, whereas i've only known him for as long as i've been dating my bf. i want to get out and do other stuff, but it seems like there's almost nothing to do besides what i've already been doing. but there needs to be a change. i just can't figure it out.
so basically, the bottom line is this: what are some people-oriented hobbies that i could take up and keep separate from my bf without causing a jealousy problem? i'm not into sports at all (really can't do the competitive thing) and there doesn't really seem to be any community activities that i can really take part in this late in the game, especially considering i'm an american living on a military base in germany, so my options are kind of limited. i mean, i've always enjoyed doing artistic things, but that's something solitary, and it just gets me bored and restless after a while. also, i'm 17 (almost 18) and a senior in high school, so i dunno, besides school activities (which i almost universally can't stand, and either way, like i said, it's too late to join by now) there just doesn't seem to be anything i can do. i'm also kind of put off by the idea of making "new" friends, because i'm leaving to go back to the states this summer and it just seems... i dunno, not that great, you know?
so yeah. any ideas on creative "extroverted" activities i can participate in?
please and thanks. i just don't want to be lonely with these relationship changes going on. it's kind of a scary prospect because i'm so addicted to the constant socialization, and now it seems to be dying down.