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This is a discussion on Personal growth techniques for ENFPs within the ENFP Forum - The Inspirers forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; What are you doing today to improve yourself? Post motivational stuff and strategies you've been using to work on your ...

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    ENFP - The Inspirers


    Personal growth techniques for ENFPs

    What are you doing today to improve yourself?

    Post motivational stuff and strategies you've been using to work on your weak areas! Here are some weak areas (informal list compiled from a bunch of sources + my own ENFP-ness) that we as ENFPs can work on:

    1. Organization/messiness
    2. Dealing with personal criticism/conflict (by practicing avoidant behaviors, emotional outbursts, etc.)
    3. Internalizing anger and taking it out on ourselves, leaving the underlying issue to remain unresolved
    4. Seeking mindless experiences and sensations.
    5. Fearing commitment in relationships
    6. Not following through with projects - starting a bunch and leaving them unfinished!
    7. Tardiness and loss of productivity due to not being efficient with our time
    8. Decision-making (!!!)

    Rules for ENFP success (from personalitypage):
    Ten Rules to Live By to Achieve ENFP Success

    1. Feed Your Strengths! Make sure you have opportunities to have new experiences to feel your quest of understanding the world.
    2. Face Your Weaknesses! Realize and accept that some traits are strengths and some are weaknesses. By facing your weaknesses, you can overcome them and they will have less power over you.
    3. Express Your Feelings. Don’t let anger get bottled up inside you. If you have strong feelings, sort them out and express them, or they may become destructive!
    4. Make Decisions. Don't be afraid to have an opinion. You need to know how you feel about things in order to be effective.
    5. Smile at Criticism. Try to see disagreement and discord as an opportunity for growth, because that’s exactly what it is. Try not to become overly defensive towards criticism; try to hear it and judge it objectively.
    6. Be Aware of Others. Remember that there are 15 other personality types out there who see things differently than you see them. Most of your problems with other people are easier to deal with if you try to understand the other person's perspective.
    7. Be Aware of Yourself. Don't stint your own needs for the sake of others too much. Realise you are an important focus. If you do not fulfill your own needs, how will continue to be effective and how will others know you are true to your beliefs?
    8. Be Accountable for Yourself. Don’t waste mental energy finding blame in other’s behaviour, or in identifying yourself as a victim. You have more control over your life than any other person has.
    9. Assume the Best. Don't distress yourself by assuming the worst. Remember that a positive attitude creates positive situations.
    10. When in Doubt, Ask Questions! Don't assume that the lack of feedback is the same thing as negative feedback. If you need feedback and don't have any, ask for it.
    Anyone want to add to the list? What are you doing to face some of these issues head on? :D Hopefully we can help each other, if y'all are game for it. *passes out flower garlands* Heh. ^_^
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    This week I am...
    -resisting my type 9 urges to not work out by working out EVERY DAY, rain or shine
    -finding opportunities to say "no" to people instead of leaving them hanging and deciding at the last minute for commitments. It's quite empowering!
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    INTP - The Thinkers


    5. Fearing commitment in relationships

    That's not something all ENFPS have trouble with. ;P

    Other than that, I relate w/the others and hope to see some helpful advice...since I could use it.

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    understanding exactly why we feel each emotion instead of just reacting to it with no perspective (emotional intelligence)
    understanding our anatomy and how it affects our mood, concentration, etc. (low Si)
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    1. Organization/messiness
    -Always do small tasks if you can do them in less than 20 seconds. For example, if you have a used tissue, put it in the bin. If theres a shirt on the floor, fold it up and put it away, or chuck it in the laundry basket. If you think of everything as being a 20 second task, it will take longer to accumulate a mess in the first place.
    -Keep a daily list of all the tasks you would like to accomplish
    -Keep a daily year planner/iphone on you at all times and write down things you need to do or buy, peoples phone numbers etc and review every night before going to bed.
    -Buy a egg timer and force yourself to do 5 minutes of unpleasant tasks rather than procrastinate, if you don't feel like continuing, stop, otherwise keep going.

    2. Dealing with personal criticism/conflict (by practicing avoidant behaviors, emotional outbursts, etc.)
    -Remember that what someone considers a flaw may be considered a personal strength by someone else, so don't be disheartened straight away, think about what they have said and decide whether it is worth fixing, or if it is something you like about yourself. Don't let others put you down.
    -Make a list of qualities you like about yourself and don't like about yourself, the things you can change and the things you can't and make plans to acquire each trait or learn to live with certain traits you can't change.
    -Remember that everyone has flaws and theres no pleasing everyone. You will always be someone that at least one person dislikes.

    3. Internalizing anger and taking it out on ourselves, leaving the underlying issue to remain unresolved
    -Listen to sad music and cry
    -Forgive yourself
    -Make a list of how to fix things
    -Apologise to anyone you may have upset

    4. Seeking mindless experiences and sensations.
    Seek away!

    5. Fearing commitment in relationships

    -Find someone worth committing to, or decide not to have that kind of relationship, and seek people with the same idea.

    6. Not following through with projects - starting a bunch and leaving them unfinished!

    -Find someone who will finish them or decide what ones are the most important

    7. Tardiness and loss of productivity due to not being efficient with our time

    -Set an alarm
    -Set up a timetable
    -Set up an awards system with things you really really want!

    8. Decision-making (!!!)
    Just do it!
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    INTJ - The Scientists

    is there some computer software i can download that will increase my emotional intelligence?
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Quote Originally Posted by yallredyno View Post
    is there some computer software i can download that will increase my emotional intelligence?
    Yes, but probably an INTx programmed it, so I would be careful :D

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    INTJ - The Scientists

    Quote Originally Posted by Inspire View Post
    Yes, but probably an INTx programmed it, so I would be careful :D
    an intj friend of mine popped up in my head of who would do such a thing, quite frankly i wouldnt mind being more like him lol
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Quote Originally Posted by yallredyno View Post
    an intj friend of mine popped up in my head of who would do such a thing, quite frankly i wouldnt mind being more like him lol
    Well Scott Peck is INTJ they say so I guess I wouldnt mind either, maybe :D


     

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