This is a discussion on Things that annoy you about ENFPs within the ENFP Forum - The Inspirers forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by Miss Scarlet Because it's happened many times to me. It's when you guys do the "head in ...
Last edited by Miss Scarlet; 05-08-2012 at 12:22 PM.
I probably annoy people with my overly optimistic attitude. You know, when someone brings to the table all the terrible things going on in life and Im like "build a bridge and get over it" there are good things coming, and focus on those. People would rather wallow in their despair than hear me trying to build them up to get over it.
Most ENFP's I know are amazing and caring people
It should be noted that I'm only talking about 3-4 of the inconsiderate ones I know.
That being said. Here goes...
- Some of them tend to take my venting sessions seriously, hold me to whatever words I say when doing so, and don't realize it's just how I'm feeling at that particular moment... -__-
- Some of them project and assume everybody handles feelings the same way they do... which leads to the next point
- When there's an unsettled matter, some tend to close-off and ignore the problem instead of resolving it. (This isn't good for any type I suppose.)
- Pet Peeve: When I express in seriousness how upset/sad I am about something, and they just go "oh, he just needs a hug *cracks joke*"
I suppose a lot of this stems from Fe/Fi clash, though I've noticed IME that most ENFPs get the differences.
The older I get, the more I don't think ENFP particularly annoy me quite so much as emotional immaturity does...and that's not really type related. As I age, so do the ENFP around me, and thus the emotional immaturity we all had is fading and everybody is getting more tolerable.
The reality of your 30s: Your back hurts more but the people are more interesting.
Procrastination..another bad trait in me,which I'm trying to improve too, cause this is really harmful for me on a broader aspect.
There are many more characteristics which I dislike in myself, some I've embraced while some I'm trying to improve.