Oh alright, if it's for you to feel more detached, I agree then ! Maybe you can take more time to answer him, or make shorter answers etc. Even if he always initiates, you can have some control over this :)
Now I read Alesha's answers, I think I remember your thread about this guy who asked you to be friends with benefits. To me, it's quite obvious that he's physically attracted to you, but the way he asked you that (drunk and kinda desperate) sounded disrespectful to me. Thankfully you didn't accept his offer and he apologized (I have nothing against sexfriends, but not in this context, in which you have feelings for him and he wanted to use you because he didn't have any other option...). It seems like he really values your friendship, and is holding his feelings back (agreed with Alesha) for some reason. So, yeah, being seductive and detached at the same time could play in your favor ! I believe the situation isn't desperate at all between you. It might take time but this guy's feelings can evolve. Don't wait for him though, live your life and you'll see :)
Hm, not to me ! Especially since he'll sleep over at your home soon (to his initiative moreover). Despite the distance between your universities you still regularly go out together. So, there's ground to make things evolve ! INTJs are long term planners and you're in his plans for the future. Which ones ? not clear yet, but as long as there's physical attraction and ambiguity, there's hope !Quote:
Then he acted offended and was like 'hello we could live together.' Hahaha idk it screams friends forever to me.
*Edit : I'll add that it would be healthier for both of you to have other options. The fact he doesn't seem attracted to anyone shouldn't be reassuring, because in this context he wouldn't want sex or cuddles or whatever with you for good reasons, just out of "despair". He has to be attracted to you because among all his potential dates, sexfriends or girlfriends, you're the best one. If he wants to be sexfriends because he's genuinely attracted to you, I see no problem here, this situation could even suit you since you said you didn't particularly want any serious relationship for now. It just needs to happen for good reasons, from both sides :wink: At first I couldn't pinpoint what really bothered me in this story and it's this apparent lack of options. This guy has been rejected by his crush and sought "comfort" in you, which s**ks. Even though everybody is unique, don't forget that other guys can be much better than this one, and that you don't need him ! You'll stop feeling jealousy if you allow you two to consider dating other people.