It makes sense, think awkwardness in many cases is summoned by overanalyzing and caring too much, no one comes off 'awkward' even if they're really blunt, if it's clear they don't value what's going on, think so-lasts often come off really cool :DFor what it's worth, I'm so-blind, and I really do mean blind. I don't think that makes me awkward. I mean, I occasionally blurt out things that I probably shouldn't be saying, but I think that a lot of people do this.Oh ok, I get what you mean better now! and yes, that tallies with my experience, agree! (think you explained well the first time, I just got slightly different image)I was definitely stereotyping, but I do strongly associate sx-last with "mechanical." I don't think that sx-lasts come across as "uncomfortable" usually, just "stiff." It's one of the reasons why I tend to see them as controlled, but not as though they're holding back - I associate this more with having sx higher in the stacking, especially in so-blinds. sx-lasts seem collected, like they know what they want to share and what they don't. so and sp-lasts tend to seem like they're not quite as sure whether or not to say or do something, like they're withholding information or like they're resisting the urge to say or do something.Oh, ok, that's interesting - I would maybe associate this with Fi or even sp (I remember @Immolate saying something similar about sp)I tend to share personal information without meaning to impulsively at times, if it relates to something in the topic of conversation, but I think I should have pointed out that it seems that some sx-lasts willingly, consciously share information without even seeming to realize just how intimate it is. I've built some relationships over the years with people who seemed like they didn't care just who they shared their feelings with because it didn't really mean anything to them to share or to have information shared with them. I've found that sx-firsts and seconds attach more value to sharing personal information, because the more information you're sharing, the deeper you're going.
A former friend of mine would share her insecurities and feelings with our entire classroom, and still somehow form no attachment to 90% of the people there despite the fact that they knew about these intimate parts of her. I've also had the experience of being further along in relationships with people than they are with me, because when they'd share something very personal with me and I'd consider that to mean that we're getting closer, but somehow it seemed that they were emotionally in the same place as before, like they were emotionally detached from the information they were sharing. The weird thing is that a lot of them considered themselves very private with how they deal with their feelings, and perhaps they were, but in a different way to me which is why I failed to understand them. All I know is that if I'm sharing personal information with somebody or they're doing that with me, I'm going to form an attachment to them, and it seems like sx-lasts can't separate the personal from impersonal. They'll make an offhand comment about these deep feelings have been nagging them for years and when I point out that they've just willingly shared intimate stuff about themselves, they'll be like, "Me? Vulnerable? Never."
Not sure of my type lol so it's not that relevant but I don't tend to see personal information as that...expensive, I usually don't mind sharing things, don't think it necessarily tells me I'm advancing further in a relationship or something (well, it's all connected but there's a lot of other indicators I use for closeness and I'm not...jealous about what I share, I guess)(But I get attached to people easily as well ;))Not sure I've explained that correctly, and for all I know, it might not have anything to do with instincts. I think this sorta thing is easy for me to notice because I tend to get attached to people easily, and I think that it's easier to share personal things with others when you're on the opposite end of the spectrum.Ok, this all makes sense with your typing)I do want to say that I can relate to everything in bold, BUT I don't tend to feel scared or awkward and I don't think think that I come across awkward either because I don't really worry about how I come across or freak out about what I'm going to say. I like things to flow, and if it's not happening naturally, I'm not going to force a conversation because I really hate it when people try to force conversations with me. I don't like socializing for the sake of socializing and I don't like feeling like someone is bullshitting me; when I'm talking to someone, unless it's because one of us needs something like directions to a certain place or whatever, I either have to feel like the conversation itself is really stimulating or like we're both interested in getting to know each other, and if that's not coming naturally, I'd rather just end the conversation and walk away. I prefer not to be alone, but I'd definitely prefer to be all alone than to force something that's not there, although it depends on the situation. In a classroom, I'd prefer to have friends to talk to and to provide a sense of relief from the workload, but I don't mind being alone if I'm not really clicking with anybody. In a more social setting, like a party, I really don't like to be alone because I can't have fun in that kind of situation on my own.
Interesting, thanks for sharing!