I have been wondering lately the affects of adverse childhood experiences on the personality. If one is born with their enneagram type, does this affect their reaction to these experiences, or does the experience shape their personality or warp their perception of it?
I have recently discovered, thanks to the unveiling of my denial, I am a child of an alcoholic. My mother drank and I was the "lost child" who hid in their room and isolated themselves. As a result, a lot of these coping habits formed themselves later into my adult life and I still isolate sometimes to deal with issues in my life.
You can probably see where I'm going with this, but I've self-identified with the 4w5 type as a result of this.
I have another friend who, although her parents didn't drink, they're dysfunctional and authoritarian, and she also identifies with 4w5 and isolates to protect herself emotionally too.
Now, for those of you who do know about the different reactions one can have to alcoholic parents (scapegoat, mascot, hero, mastermind, etc.) how much of an influence does enneagram have on this? Are those who are born 4w5s more likely to become the lost child, or does the lost child think they are a 4w5 because of their likelihood to intellectualize emotions since they were raised in an emotionless household? I am wondering if I am ACTUALLY a 4w5, or I just have these tendencies due to the family I was raised in.
Basically I am having somewhat of an "identity" crisis pondering the effects of being an ACOA (adult child of an alcoholic, a term I've learned from support groups).
It's interesting to me, as my siblings reacted differently, so I assume it's personality. But I'd love to hear other's experiences if they went through something similar/know someone.
I also wonder the same about MBTI, but since I'm new to the forums, I'm not sure if I should make a new post of the same thing..?