@Father of DragonsPerhaps this is a sign of the gain-loss effect in action (sometimes called the "law of infidelity"):However, it weirds me out that they seem to open up more to other people who are not warm at all.
"The 'law of infidelity,' derived from E. Aronson's (1969) gain-loss theory of attraction, predicts that when 2 evaluators compete for the affections of an evaluatee, the one whose evaluations begin negatively but then become positive (a gain evaluator) will be liked more than a consistently positive evaluator."
"In a study performed by Gerald Clore from the University of Illinois, Clore performed an experiment in which he showed 338 people four videos of two people interacting. The videos were as follows:
Video 1: Person A is pleasant to person B.
Video 2: Person A is initially pleasant to person B, but becomes more standoffish as the conversation continues.
Video 3: Person A is initially unpleasant to Person B, but mellows as the conversation continues.
Video 4: Person A acts like an enormous, raging turd for the entirety of the conversation.
When polled on which behavior was the most appealing, the majority of subjects chose video number three. Essentially, when someone is consistently unpleasant towards you, it establishes a behavioral baseline that colors your expectations. When that person becomes more pleasant, even if it's by a tiny amount, you interpret that as progress, which is psychologically stimulating."