Do you behave different when being with (around) a specific e-type?

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This is a discussion on Do you behave different when being with (around) a specific e-type? within the Enneagram Personality Theory Forum forums, part of the Personality Type Forums category; Just for curiosity. For example, do you behave different when being around a 3(or any other number)? How different?...

  1. #1
    Type 5w4

    Do you behave different when being with (around) a specific e-type?

    Just for curiosity.
    For example, do you behave different when being around a 3(or any other number)? How different?



  2. #2
    Type 6w5

    Yes, I usually try to adapt to or complement the personality of those around me.


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  3. #3
    Type 6w7

    I don't but not because I behave the same with everyone but because I don't intentionally determine their type and then my behavior. Too many steps in between. I see behavior and respond to that behavior. I don't see type, it's not easily available. I can see hints of it but I try to not make conclusions. For example, if I am around a person that gives me the feeling that's very judgmental, I act guarded and a bit aloof but I'm not thinking 'This person is judgmental, hence he is a 1, hence I must protect myself". That's what I'm talking about when I say there are too many steps in between. It's weird to see the type and not the behavior. Sometimes you see behavior you associated with y type in someone claiming is x type, that's the only situation when type is "directly available". Type is completely irrelevant.

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    Quote Originally Posted by slothpop View Post
    Yes, I usually try to adapt to or complement the personality of those around me.


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    That's a very 9-ish thing to do. And oh my gosh, your avatar! PUPPY!

  6. #5
    Type 4w3


    Different sides of myself will come out around different people. That's common with ENFPs, though -- unconsciously adapting to who they're with. Most of the time, I'm not modifying my behavior intentionally.
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  7. #6
    Type 9w1

    I don't think in terms of ennea, but as far as MBTI--well, just personality traits--I tend to give them what they want. If I'm with an ENFP, I'll entertain them, and laugh at whatever they say.

    ISTP/ESTP, I'll stick with talking about their hobbies, and remain interested in them.

    I'm pretty good at being everyone but myself when around most people.

  8. #7
    Type 4w3


    Quote Originally Posted by Antipode View Post
    I'm pretty good at being everyone but myself when around most people.
    Would that adaptability be who "yourself" is anyway, or do you feel it's disingenuous, that there is a "you" that people don't see?

  9. #8
    Type 9w1

    Quote Originally Posted by chimeric View Post
    Would that adaptability be who "yourself" is anyway, or do you feel it's disingenuous, that there is a "you" that people don't see?
    I don't think any black and white answer would hit the mark.

    It's a lot like if I went to a buffet. I walked around and piled my plate with all the food I wanted. Then, when I went to sit down, different friends would ask if I could share with them. Sure, why not, but I know what they like, so Ill give them those certain foods, keeping the other ones away from them.

    In the end, I enjoy all the food I piled on my plate and gave away, but my favorite foods--the ones that I usually pick up and usually eat, I don't give to anyone, because I don't think they'd want to eat it.

    Best way I can describe it.
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  10. #9
    Type 6w5

    Quote Originally Posted by chimeric View Post
    Would that adaptability be who "yourself" is anyway, or do you feel it's disingenuous, that there is a "you" that people don't see?
    I am a 9w1 myself, and I relate to what @Antipode is saying. To add on, I would say that personalities are multifaceted. Typically, people have a variety of different interests, and very rarely to they find someone whom they can share every one of their interests with. For example, I am a huge music fanatic and love all types of music. When I am with my father, we listen to classic rock, and when I am with my sister, we listen to pop music. This doesn't mean that I am being any less myself when I am with these two individuals -- I am just choosing to show the side of me that would best appeal to them at that moment. I love MBTI stuff and psychology, but I am also interested in foreign languages, programming, and a variety of other things. If I find someone who is only interested in one of those, I will discuss those things with them and will leave out discussions on things that they are interested in. This is because, as a type 9, I highly value my sense of comfort and so I do not want to make anyone else feel uncomfortable as a result.

    Now, I know that this is different from adapting towards another person's behavior, which is something that I also do as a type 9. If I am around young children, I am the complete opposite of who I am when I am around my ENTJ significant other. However, this isn't me "faking" any sort of personality. It is similar to my interests, which have been accumulated and expanded over a long period of time. I have found that I am comfortable being intellectual and cerebral as well as quirky and spontaneous, and a large part of this comfort comes from the comfortable/pleasant reactions I pick up on from my respective audiences. If I act cerebral and intellectual around a silly little 5 year old boy, he will become bored and annoyed with me fairly quickly. If I act goofy and childish around my ENTJ, he will find it endearing for a short time and then grow annoyed with me when he wants to have an intellectual discussion. In this way, I am still slothpop the 9w1 INFP, but I have different facets to my personality that I whip out when given an opportunity. In this way, there are very few people with whom I don't "click." In fact, I am largely unfamiliar with what that means.

    Well, actually, that is a lie. I am still an INFP with dominant Fi, so I will not be able to accommodate any personality that goes against my moral values. People without depth and who seem to wander aimlessly without purpose or without any sense of integrity or morals...I will not morph to fit their personality, simply because I do not want to be that kind of person. I don't have that in me. I will sacrifice my sense of comfort (and their sense of comfort) to stay true to myself. In this way, you could call the type 9 inconsistent, yet not inauthentic.
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  11. #10
    Type 9w8

    @slothpop summed it up pretty well for me. I relate to mostly everything she said.


     
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