The Contemplative 459/549/945 tri type: What do you guys do with you lives? - Page 5

The Contemplative 459/549/945 tri type: What do you guys do with you lives?

Hello Guest! Sign up to join the discussion below...
Page 5 of 5 FirstFirst ... 3 4 5
Results 41 to 48 of 48
Thank Tree127Thanks

This is a discussion on The Contemplative 459/549/945 tri type: What do you guys do with you lives? within the Enneagram Personality Theory Forum forums, part of the Personality Type Forums category; EDIT: whoops, wrong thread, nevermind......

  1. #41
    Type 9w1

    EDIT: whoops, wrong thread, nevermind...

  2. #42

    Quote Originally Posted by rainrunner View Post
    @Bohemianmystic @gracie1030 @Dreamer316 @Draki @Dreamer316 @Lovebeam (sorry if I missed anyone who expressed interest)

    I started a Skype group. I usually don't organize anything but since this seems to be a group of INxPs...so yeah... Not sure how this works since this is my first time. PM me your skype so i can add you.
    I'm late going back through old threads. Are you guys actually skypeing? With video? I have to admit....that kind of freaks me out. It's so....on display. So laid bare. So not anonymous. Is this just an idiosyncrasy of mine? Or do all of you introverts dislike being put on display?

    Perhaps it is a generational thing? I am very private and though I can be fairly confessional on PerC so far, I am very aware that no one here knows my name, what my voice sounds like, what i look like, where i live... i am a sensory approximation of a tabula rasa. I know the odds are against it, but one of you could be a former student, or a friend's sibling or my next door neighbor. My mind just goes there of its own volition. Apologies if this is a histrionic overreaction.
    Last edited by sittapygmaea; 10-31-2014 at 05:12 AM. Reason: grammar

  3. #43

    Quote Originally Posted by sittapygmaea View Post
    I'm late going back through old threads. Are you guys actually skypeing? With video? I have to admit....that kind of freaks me out. It's so....on display. So laid bare. So not anonymous. Is this just an idiosyncrasy of mine? Or do all of you introverts dislike being put on display?

    Perhaps it is a generational thing? I am very private and though I can be fairly confessional on PerC so far, I am very aware that no one here knows my name, what my voice sounds like, what i look like, where i live... i am a sensory approximation of a tabula rasa. I know the odds are against it, but one of you could be a former student, or a friend's sibling or my next door neighbor. My mind just goes there of its own volition. Apologies if this is a histrionic overreaction.
    No. We text chatted for a bit but due to different timezones and schedules (and the organizers inability to organize stuff ), the chat's been quiet. I'm too shy to appear on camera too.
    sittapygmaea thanked this post.

  4. Remove Advertisements
    PersonalityCafe.com
    Advertisements
     

  5. #44
    Type 4w5

    Dang, am I late to join the party?... huh... party?

    I'm an INFP 4w5 5w4 9w1 so/sx . Does that make me a unicorn? I think some people don't realize how reclusive I am just because I can be funny and make new friends feel at ease, but then I'll disappear from the face of the earth never to be heard from again. I have 1 friend I regularly talk to on video chat. Another friend I keep in touch with by e-mail with whom I can be totally honest, but he doesn't "talk about things". So I've been lonely pretty much all my life, but other people would be surprised about how long I can be "fine" with just cooping up all alone at home.

    Speaking of contemplative, I was earlier "contemplating" for an hour about whether I should go out and get food, even though I was already starving. I know that 459 itself is very self-preserving in nature, but this is the sort of stuff that makes me think otherwise. I'm really bad at making sure of my own survival, stuff like going out to get things I need, finding a job, asking for help. I'd contemplate about doing that for hours, days, months, years until I miss the bus.

    In the past year or so, I was actually (relatively) very good at facing people, finishing tasks, facing my fear. I did activities that required me to do things on schedule and to face awkward situation with other people all the time. Sure, they paid off, but now I'm just burnt out and really sick of being anxious 24/7, trying not to miss opportunities, which, regardless of how much I try to catch up, I seem to miss anyway. Plus just doing things without thinking enough about them (by my own standard of "enough") makes me lose/forget the purpose of why I was doing this in the first place (like finding employment). I know I need to go back to school eventually, but just thinking about how I need to get up on time or how fast I have to walk so that I won't be late just make me too nervous to get up. Every single nightmare I've had is either about being chased by some sort of monster or being late and unprepared to go to something important.

    The one thing I want to do the most is music, but that enthusiasm has always co-existed with my fear of not being able to make a living and being rejected by my family, who disapproves of it. I have to admit that I was not disciplined about it in middle & high school, partly because I didn't know what I was doing (didn't have much guidance from people around me) and I didn't want to hear myself sound bad. I got much better at it during college, where I learned theory and was able to study things that weren't available through classes by myself. But I still wasn't good enough to catch up with other people, got worried, and majored in art instead, which seems like the 2nd best thing to me. I still wasn't very good at just doing/making the projects instead of thinking too much about the concept or the process and ending up trashing the entire plan. I don't regret majoring in art, because it was almost like the complete opposite of philosophy major (like 2 sides of the same coin). Really meta and interdisciplinary. In fact, a little too meta and interdisciplinary to convince employers that I'm smart enough to do jobs. Unless the reason why I can't get jobs is because I don't have connections. So I'm studying fashion right now, but at the same time trying to look for any entry level job that I can possibly qualify for. So that I can survive. And spend all my free time just doing music.

    People are making me miserable. But at the same time I don't feel safe when I don't live in highly populated area, because I need to have people who sell food right next door if I don't want to starve all day.

    Aside from those, yes, I find that I creepily can relate to all you guys. The whole studying other languages/cultures, being interested in human-computer interaction (it was part of my graduation art project), being terrible at finishing books but still can't help but collect books anyway, etc etc. you name it.

    By the way, is anyone else interested in stuff like subcultures, crowd psychology, or mosh pits? I was wondering if that's the main factor that makes me so/sx. I do realize that I'm surrounded by SPs or "doers" who "live in the moment" in the culture that I choose to (sort of) participate in.
    sittapygmaea, Dragon Rider and psychologic thanked this post.

  6. #45
    Type 7w6

    So I think my dad might be this type. I know he is an ISTP 5w6 9w8 ?w?. He's very quiet and intellectual, but more pragmatic and active as an ISTP. I find it difficult to see any of the heart triad in him, but I wouldn't be surprised if he was triple withdrawn. Are there any ISTPs, or maybe ISTJs or even ISFJs or something that have this tritype? He is by no means the dreamy/romantic type, but he is also very much not altruistic or ambitious. Are there any 594s here? How strong is your 4 influence? How does it manifest?

  7. #46
    Type 5w4


    Quote Originally Posted by sittapygmaea View Post
    @sodden We sound very similar. Having also not yet figured out what I want to do with my life (and definitely at middle age) ... I wonder, do you feel pressure about this from acquaintances? I find the "and what do you do" conversation can be quite stressful. Especially because I was an academic, and my husband is a very very successful academic, so I tend to have a lot of social engagement with people who are totally identified with their professions, and regard someone like me as an inscrutable alien. The worst is when people feel compelled to offer career advice/suggestions. I understand that it's a natural topic for small talk, but I haven't figured out to answer the question in a way that is honest and yet not too personal. I feel disappointed with some features of my life, but not ashamed of them. Still, I don't necessarily want to get into my personal angst and ruminations with a random person trying to chitchat.
    Yes, I also have a lot of difficulty with this (I know you posted this months ago, but I'm just getting back to it...) I do feel ashamed, though. I feel especially ashamed that the evaluations of others make me feel ashamed. I think the main thing is that people are judged so much by externals in this world of ours, and people don't see me for who I am, really at all. It's frustrating because my talents are not those appreciated by society. I'm very much a philosopher and love exploring the interconnections of everything. I think I have good insights/ love looking at things from different angles/ getting into intense discussions about this sort of thing, but what do you do with that besides teach? (I don't want to teach.)

    Quote Originally Posted by Fractals and Pterodactyls View Post
    We think, feel, and ponder things deeply. Then repeat the cycle. Our strengths are our ability to look inward, see deeper meanings in things, so beyond the surface. We pursue our interests deeply and intensely. Our weaknesses are that we don't get out much, we're too wrapped up in ourselves, we aren't spending our time productively enough- in the eyes of the external world. We want to feel significant yet feel overlooked because we do things quietly, we aren't out there tooting our horns. Sometimes people think we're just passive people, indifferent to things because we are so internal but that it so wrong about us. We have existential anxiety. We feel we should be doing more productive things out in the world and wonder about our significance because we feel like we haven't accomplished enough in the external world.
    Yes, exactly. Well stated.
    Dragon Rider thanked this post.

  8. #47

    Anyone else find it hard to motivate yourself to do anything physically? I find I can sit and dream and imagine myself doing the thing that needs to be done... but will never actually come around to doing it unless I literally shut off my mind and stop thinking. It feels so limiting and frustrating

  9. #48
    Type 5w4

    I'm an INTP with my primary type 5w4, then 9w1, then 4w5 :)
    sittapygmaea thanked this post.


     
Page 5 of 5 FirstFirst ... 3 4 5

Similar Threads

  1. Tri-type stacking 458/584/845, Do You Guys Exist or is it just me?!
    By perfectcircle in forum Enneagram Personality Theory Forum
    Replies: 291
    Last Post: 12-06-2019, 10:56 PM
  2. [Enneagram Type 4] 459/549/945 tri type description
    By 4isfp in forum Type 4 Forum - The Individualist
    Replies: 1
    Last Post: 12-31-2014, 01:57 PM
  3. Enneagram tritype 549 (Head,Heart,Gut) ALL 549 HERE, SAY HI
    By Rez in forum Enneagram Personality Theory Forum
    Replies: 47
    Last Post: 04-26-2013, 07:58 AM

Tags for this Thread

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
All times are GMT -7. The time now is 04:35 PM.
Information provided on the site is meant to complement and not replace any advice or information from a health professional.
© 2014 PersonalityCafe
 

SEO by vBSEO 3.6.0