Here too. Not that messed up/ miserable, but definitely falling short of idyllic. I was pretty much left to do whatever I wanted.My childhood is what I consider to be hollow; an overly neutral mess, nothing.As far as I can tell, though some make the effort not to, parents treat different children differently. A mother that's overbearing to one child could be dismissive to the other. If using the 'formula' argument, it still can apply, depending on how that one child view the parent(s).Also, wouldn't having such parents mean that all siblings, whether there be two, three or more, be the same enneagram type?