Which Enneagram Type Do You Find Most Difficult to Understand?

Which Enneagram Type Do You Find Most Difficult to Understand?

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  • 1 "The Perfectionist"

    40 20.30%
  • 2 "The Helper"

    45 22.84%
  • 3 "The Achiever"

    34 17.26%
  • 4 "The Romantic"

    30 15.23%
  • 5 "The Investigator"

    17 8.63%
  • 6 "The Questioner"

    38 19.29%
  • 7 "The Generalist"

    37 18.78%
  • 8 "The Challenger"

    42 21.32%
  • 9 "The Peacemaker"

    35 17.77%
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    Which Enneagram Type Do You Find Most Difficult to Understand?

    Which type do you find most difficult to understand or relate to? Why?
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    Type 8

    For me, the hardest types to understand are the types that I once considered myself to be, such as Types Five and One. Without my personal experience in thinking I am one, it's like a total disconnect in the fact that I have to learn about the type all over again. Something about relating to the type you believe you are skews the view for me, and often in a worse way than it was before.

    The type I find it hardest to relate to is Type Nine - only on the unhealthy levels, though, which may be said for all of the other types. I find it hard to understand or want to grasp the perspective of someone who I deem quite lazy and not willing to take control. Average to healthy Nines, though, I can get along with just fine. In deep relationships, I find the biggest friction occurs between Sixes and I. My best friend is a 6w7, and although we trust each other greatly, there are times she will defer herself to me... and stay that way. Someone who needs to be told every step to do something really nags me.

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    Type 3

    For me it would have to be Type Six, although that could be because the Sixes I know IRL are all unhealthy and either worry too much about things (which is very difficult for me to relate to, as I tend to be calm and rational in tense situations) or are overly clingy, and neither of these tendencies work well with me.
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    Type 5


    Type 1's can irritate the hell out of me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MannyP View Post
    For me it would have to be Type Six, although that could be because the Sixes I know IRL are all unhealthy and either worry too much about things (which is very difficult for me to relate to, as I tend to be calm and rational in tense situations) or are overly clingy, and neither of these tendencies work well with me.

    That's interesting. Although fear is often beneath the surface, most people are amazed at how calm I appear to be. Of course, most people never get past the wall I keep up.
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    Unknown

    In terms of understanding (not relating though, since I don't bother to type ppl IRL) I would say six, since from what I've read they tend to be diverse in how they behave in relation to all that phobic and counter-phobic business, which can cause them to appear like any other type on the Enneagram. Also, since they tend to submerge their fear and anxiety (whether by complying with people, or confronting their fears) it would be hard in real life to see that core since it wouldn't be displayed.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Harley View Post
    In terms of understanding (not relating though, since I don't bother to type ppl IRL) I would say six, since from what I've read they tend to be diverse in how they behave in relation to all that phobic and counter-phobic business, which can cause them to appear like any other type on the Enneagram. Also, since they tend to submerge their fear and anxiety (whether by complying with people, or confronting their fears) it would be hard in real life to see that core since it wouldn't be displayed.

    If you care to understand type 6 (or any other type for that matter) better, I would recommend learning about body language and/or NLP . We try to hide what's under the surface but our bodies cannot lie.
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    Unknown

    Quote Originally Posted by Azrael View Post
    Type 1's can irritate the hell out of me.
    1st, I laughed. Then I thought, damn... he's right. I voted 1 before I saw your post.

  10. #9
    Unknown


    Wow, I'm actually really attracted to 1's.

    It is the unhealthy, straight 9 (as in, no wings) I understand and can relate to theoretically, but then I see it in a person who is close to me... and I just don't get it. It's hard having a nine for a parent, and being a nine oneself. They withdraw, but you can't withdraw, because you have to deal with what they aren't dealing with. Seeing extreme withdrawing in action is a strange and sometime frustrating experience for me. It is like looking into a mirror for the first time, and not liking what it's showing you.

    I think being a nine, I can understand the other types quite well. Some less than others. But it is the nine that conflicts me most of all, because I havent grasped 'me' yet.

    "However, what they generally do not have is a sense of really inhabiting themselves—
    a strong sense of their own identity. Ironically, therefore, the only type the Nine is not like is the Nine itself. Being a separate self, an individual who must assert herself against others, is terrifying to Nines. They would rather melt into someone else or quietly follow their idyllic daydreams"

    This is turning out to be an intriguing poll. Thanks Aubrey, I will be watching this.

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    Unknown

    Quote Originally Posted by aubrey View Post
    If you care to understand type 6 (or any other type for that matter) better, I would recommend learning about body language and/or NLP . We try to hide what's under the surface but our bodies cannot lie.
    I find this interesting, in that I would assume sixes' would purposefully manipulate their body language in order to hide what's underneath. For instance I would assume that phobic sixes' would put on a calm front and be compliant, and have a relaxed body language so as to not stir up trouble that would cause them fear, while a counter-phobic would puff themselves up and have very harsh physical movements to make themselves appear tougher than they really are.

    I'm guessing you mean the more unconscious type of body language or that sixes' aren't as aware of their physical presence as other types.
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