This is not an ego thread.
Do you find themselves to be genuinely de-sensitised & find it hard to be empathetic towards others?
This is what happened to me earlier this week.
I had done a job interview. After my interview, I entered the elevator so that I could leave the building. A woman around my age got in.
She was in tears & I asked her how she went. She said that they drilled her very hard & they didn't expect for the interviewers to get so deep into her. Looking back on it, perhaps I should've pat her back or done something a long those lines. That didn't flow naturally to me. Instead, I was perhaps too hard on her. I hate it when people drown in their own self-pity I guess...
I told her, perhaps a bit too intensely, that now was not the time to drown in her own self pity. I told her to stop crying & no good would come of it. I then asked her if the interviewer gave her any feedback & I told her that if she wanted the job as much as she claimed, she would let nothing stop her & I told her to let all the tears out, but when you stop crying, it is then that you should put your game face on.
I find it so hard to show my emotions, the only way I know how is through action. It is also a burden for me to be the person to provide emotional support. Do you ENTJs relate to this?
On a side note, The older I get, the colder I feel I am getting. Is it possible to turn from E to I?
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