Hey guys, I've always had this instant attraction to ENTJ males but up until now I had only gotten to know just one really well. He was gay so that didn't really work out lol. The second ENTJ, I've met through my best friend. She has been friends with him since they were teenagers.
So basically I started texting him about politics a couple weeks ago and we had some interesting conversations. The annoying thing is that he always takes a week or more to answer because his job is so demanding. I understand why and he always answers eventually but at the same time I don't really know if he's really interested. Does he just want to be friends? When I suggested meeting up and talking about politics he turned it into a group thing. We did go for a drink just the two of us afterwards but I have the feeling that that didn't go as smoothly. Mostly I was just very tired, I had been up since six and we had already been talking for three hours. As an introvert, this can get kind of too much for me.
Then two weeks later I started texting him again. I have the feeling that we have this funny bantering kind of relationship. And I love it. I just have no idea if he wants to pursue me. We are still doing this group discussing politics thing though. So I will definitely see him again.
Also every time he flirts, he makes a joke out of this. He does this with everyone it seems. Or at least he also does it with my best friend. But they have been friends for such a long time so... is this just him being friendly? Is this his humor?
I know as an INTJ I should just be up front and honest about it (which is always my advice to people approaching INTJs) but I don't like confrontation and I would like more insight into this before I ask such a direct question. AND I have been pretty out right flirting with him, but as his flirting style seems more like joking I don't even know if he's flirting back with me. Considering I usually have a pretty good gauge on whether or not a guy likes me this is pretty frustrating.