I'll start by saying that my husband is a feeling type (ENFJ) and we actually get along pretty great, with a few misunderstandings. But a lot of my female friends are also ENFJ, ENFP, INFJ and other feeling types. I am a bit frustrated at times because it seems I am often more misunderstood by female feelers. I should say too that with the exception of a couple, these women became my friends because they married my husbands' friends. And for the most part I get along with them great. These are just a few bumps in the road.
-I'm thinking about having children in the next few years and when I mention this to them, they talk about/encourage the stay at home mom option, which in no way appeals to me. Also, I have said that I may want to have a nanny to help out once I have kids and have gotten responses of near disgust from them.
-My husband and I run a business and when I talk about my work, I see blank looks on their faces (none of them are entrepreneurs and most of them are teachers or stay at home moms)
-They are always trying to reassure me or spare my feelings, when it is absolutely not necessary
-They misinterpret my confidence and always want to think I'm putting myself down when I'm just speaking matter of factly about myself.
...To elaborate on those last two issues, here is a specific example: I have a friend (she's an enfp who works as a hairstylist and interior designer, btw) who I generally get along with well but sometimes when I'm talking in matter of fact terms she thinks I'm putting myself down. For example the other day we were in a boutique and I said, "I get frustrated with these places because the larges usually don't fit me. My shoulders are too broad for them." She said, "Oh, I don't believe that! You look great!" Moments later I asked the woman working in the store to get me a pair of jeans and she said she'd bring me a size 5. I was like, "Well if you want me to get them over my hips you're going to have to bring me a size 9 or an 11." Her response was also, "No way, that can't be true!" Since when was my being my actual size my putting myself down? I'm always baffled. I know I look great. But I'm 5'7" with a large frame. My husband has always referred to me as amazonian (which my enfp friend also interpreted my talking about as putting myself down- I'm proud of it) I look slim, but it is just a fact that I'm often a size large and I tend to wear a size 8 to 10 and I see nothing wrong with it. I've even told her multiple times, "Hey, I'm not putting myself down, I like how I look. These are just facts." She responds with a shocked look on her face and doesn't say anything else until the next time. Anyway, that always frustrates me. I can't seem to get across that I am not insulting myself, I'm just being a realistic person, lol.
Anyway, just want to vent to some other ENTJ females and see if any of you experience the same kinds of obstacles in the world of (seemingly) mostly feeling women.